I never realized how much interest surrounded this topic until I moved from NYC to LA a year and a half ago. So many of you asked me for tips on making friends in a new city and how to make friends as an adult in general – and I really wanted to delve into this topic today. I’ll be including personal stories and scenarios that worked for me and things I’ve learned along the way!
Find a gym, class or private workout studio that you enjoy going to and become a regular
One of my best friends in NYC happened to be my pilates teacher. I was living in the West Village and became interested in taking private pilates classes so I googled “West Village pilates” and her studio was one of the first to pop up. I scheduled a private session with her and we instantly hit it off and 3 years later – we’ve taken several trips together, had so many laughs, shed so many tears, and she was the person who inspired me to start meditating.
Join Junior League, Boys and Girls club or another charity organization
My mom was a member of Junior League for years when she first moved from Connecticut to Arizona. She felt so alone and out of her element moving from the east coast to the west coast, and the Junior League was a safe, fun place for her to interact with like minded women. Some of her closest friends to this day – almost 30 years later are from her charity days.
Get a dog! And take it everywhere with you; dog parks, coffee shops, to run errands
Seriously, I have met SO many people through Charlie. It’s honestly insane.
Sign up for a seminar, class, or attend a conference about a topic you’re interested in
Ever wanted to learn how to speak a new language? It’s the perfect time! You’ll have tons of potential study buddies all around you – and what a great way to break the ice! Interested in brushing up on your social media, marketing, or graphic design skills? Your new best friend may have had the same idea and you can be beginners together!
Go on a solo retreat
Sounds intimidating or uncomfortable to some (and it did to me for a while!) but read all about my tips on How To Travel Alone here.
Reach out to old friends from your hometown, middle school, high school, or college that now live in the same city as you via Facebook
When I moved to Venice, I didn’t know ANYONE – or at least that’s what I thought. I had about 4 friends/family total in all of Los Angeles…but then I quickly did a search on Facebook and realized that tons of my friends from my hometown, middle school, high school, AND college had moved to Venice or the surrounding neighborhoods! I decided to have a huge Memorial Day BBQ at my place last year and invited all of them via Facebook and was so happy to see familiar faces show up. I was able to rekindle bonds I had back in the day, that had faded due to distance/me living in NYC, and loved knowing I had a community of genuine women around me from back home. Don’t be shy to take the first step/make the first move in inviting people somewhere or suggesting plans!!!!!
Through friends of friends
If you’re new to a city, or even if you’re not new, and looking to making more friends, new friends or stronger friendships – then branch out – get out of your comfort zone! Go to that birthday party you got invited to but probably would have skipped in the past, organize a group of girlfriends for a picnic at the beach or in Central Park, a brunch or fun dinner/girls night out, and tell everyone to bring one of their friends you don’t already know, attend that event you were on the fence about with a neighbor, colleague or cousin, and grab happy hour with your colleagues!
Don’t be shy or afraid to reach out to new or even old coworkers! Start small if you’re hesitant – ask someone you don’t know that well to grab coffee on break, try a new lunch spot, or just break the ice by asking for their advice or opinion on something (maybe it’s fun things to do in your area on the weekend, great dinner spots, or something work related.) People love when you ask them for advice or their opinion – it makes them feel good, wanted, and needed! Most people are happy that you asked and honestly just want to connect just as much as you do!!!!
I’ve become close with several photographers, videographers, fellow bloggers and creatives I admire after discovering them on Instagram and reaching out. If you’re able to find like minded/similar individuals in your industry online – don’t hesitate to send them a DM or email telling them you love their work and create that initial connection. Maybe they won’t turn into a best friend, but they could be a great business connection or contact to have. You’ll never know if you don’t try :)