Valentine's Day Wishlist

Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to buy yourself something pretty that maybe you wouldn’t normally buy! I’ve created quite a running Valentine’s Day wishlist of things I’m loving and wanted to share! So many goodies this year ;) Valentine’s Day Must Haves This pink skirt is so elegant and would go with everything from a silk blouse, to a bodysuit, chunky knit sweater, or crop top. This robe looks soooo soft and has a million good reviews. It’s perfect timing since I am in the need of a new one!!! What woman doesn’t love a vintage Chanel? Shopbop has a great selection of Chanel bags and jewelry! I have this phone case and LOVE it. So chic and I always get compliments on it. This Charlotte Tilbury eye palette has such gorgeous warm colors, I’d love to start experimenting with more oranges and pinks on my eyes. Can you believe this tortoise vase is under $30? It comes in several other shapes. Dark chocolate sea salt caramels? YES PLEASE. The Hanky Panky low rise thongs are my FAVES – and this Valentine’s themed set is so cute. I always get so many questions about my earrings, and this is a super similar pair for a fraction of the price. I’ve been wanting a fancy schmancy marble cheese or dessert dome – and this one fits the bill. Lastly, who can resist a good red Chanel polish – how dreamy is this one? Shop more of my Valentine’s Day wishlist items below – and remember – you only live once, treat yourself! xx
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How To Be Your Authentic Self

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” -Oscar Wilde It’s taken me 30 years to fully embrace my authentic myself. It has certainly not been easy getting here, but it feels so liberating to be where I am right now. Today, we are constantly bombarded with an influx of messages and images telling us everything from what to say, to what to eat, what to wear, and even how to feel. It can be extremely challenging to weed through all of the incoming stuff – and just get down what WE as unique individuals, actually WANT. So, What Do You Want? That’s the first question I ask myself everyday. What do I want to do? What do I want to wear? To eat? To read? Who do I want to see? Where do I want to go? I prioritize and put myself and my needs first before anything else. I put my mental and physical health above everything because I know that will help me be the best version of myself, and will allow me to think clearly and logically, and most importantly make decisions based off my intuition. Intuition Is Everything We all have an inner voice and a sense of intuition, however most of us sadly don’t listen to it. We listen and do what others want us to do, or what we THINK other people want us to do. We are influenced by magazines, ads, social media, our parents, our friends, coworkers, significant others – hell, even strangers! When was the last time you took a step back, and made a decision completely based on YOUR intuition without caring what anyone else thought? It’s not easy to do, is it? It’s so brave – and you have to be extremely strong, but exercising this muscle will ultimately allow you to become your authentic self. Stop The People Pleasing Doing solely what YOU want to do, can sometimes result in others disapproval. It may even cause an uproar, and be looked down upon – but would you rather have other people’s thoughts and opinions dictate your life from afar, OR would you rather live the life YOU want right here, right now? I have a friend who became a lawyer just because both of her parents were lawyers and they forced (OK strongly pushed) her to be one. They basically made it clear that any other job wasn’t good enough or acceptable. She went through YEARS of law school, internships, and jobs working insane hours and after all of that, is absolutely miserable today. She is always complaining about her job, her coworkers, her hours, lack of a social life, etc. I’ve known her my entire life and to see her so unhappy and drained truly breaks my heart. She’s a 30 year old grown woman, and yet she’s allowing her parents’ opinions to dictate her life which is stifling her true self. Her parents aren’t bad people, and at the end of the day they only want the best for her, but only she knows what’s best for her. You cannot let anyone, even loved ones, tell you how to live your life. It is your responsibility and duty to your SOUL to listen to and follow your intuition. You Do You If I had listened to, followed, or been swayed by every ad, article, friend, family member, and/or stranger that I encountered, I would not be where I am today. I cannot tell you how many people thought that blogging was a silly, frivolous hobby when I started it 9 years ago!!!! So many people looked at me like I was an ALIEN when I told them I had a blog in 2011. And do you know how many so called “industry experts” and managers I’ve met with over the years who have compared me to other bloggers they felt were relevant and encouraged me to do crazy/outlandish/new things to stay “cool?” They actually DISCOURAGED me from being consistent, classic, relatable, and well, MYSELF! If I had listened to ANY one of them I would not be in this position! It has NOT been easy to drown out the minutiae – especially as a young woman in a new industry that is still not taken very seriously! But, I am thankful for the doubters, the naysayers and the boxes that people have tried to put me in. I am thankful for every struggle and adversity I’ve faced because it helped me develop grit and determination which every single entrepreneur needs. Over the years, I dug deeper and leaned even harder into myself, my desires and my dreams. Doing so helped me cultivate a strong inner voice. I’m here to tell you; Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Don’t let anyone try to push you to be someone you’re not. Don’t let anyone put you down, belittle you, or manipulate you. And remember, take nothing personally. Hurt people only try to hurt other people period. Purge The Negativity One of the most important things I’ve done for myself is heavily filtering out the people I surround myself with. Gone are the days of “the more the merrier”, and in are the days of “quality over quantity.” People come in and out of our lives for many reasons. Some relationships don’t always last forever, and some go in ebbs and flows depending on where we are in our lives. Learn something from each and every relationship, and cultivate a positive, uplifting tight inner circle. Pull away from anyone who drains you, makes small digs/backhanded compliments, or simply can’t be happy for you. Life is too short! Be clear about what types of qualities and characteristics you want in friends, business partners, coworkers, and significant others – and you will slowly start to meet more people with those exact qualities. This is called manifestation and something that I do on a daily basis. Ask, visualize and you shall receive! Love Your Uniqueness We are all unique and we all have something special to offer the world. When we hone in on that, surround ourselves with good people, and listen to our intuition – everything starts flowing from there. That’s not to say there won’t be hard times, hiccups and barriers along the way. There will always be ups and downs in life, but if you create a solid foundation for yourself you’ll be able to handle anything that’s thrown at you on your own terms, with grace. “There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” -Dr. Steve Mariboli
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Shades of Grey

I love a monochromatic outfit anytime of year, but especially in the winter when you can layer layer layer! We need all the layers we can get on the East coast right now because it’s been freeeeezing. My secret to staying warm in the winter is a combination of things, but involves one common factor; cashmere. How To Stay Warm In The WinterCashmere is my secret weapon to combatting the cold. It’s something that is SO worth investing in during the winter. Whether it be a cashmere scarf, a cashmere hat, a cashmere sweater, or a cashmere coat – trust me, you’ll be so glad you splurged. Cashmere is such a high-quality material and really keeps you warm. Some of my favorite cashmere pieces are from White + Warren. I own several of their hats and scarves, and am so impressed at how thick and cozy everything is! I also LOVE Vince’s cashmere sweaters – I own about 7 of them in various colors and they’ve lasted for years. Best Cashmere SweatersIn addition to Vince cashmere sweaters, White + Warren also makes great cashmeres sweaters, as does Intermix and Nordstrom. This cream v-neck Nordstrom Signature sweater is one that I’ve been reaching for all winter long because it’s the perfect length and cut. And this one is a steal for under $50! I bought this Intermix cropped sweater in 3 colors – and love it tucked into pencil skirts and high waisted pants. Winter AccessoriesShop the rest of my outfit – including this grey winter coat, these grey distressed jeans, and these Joie suede booties (which are SO comfy) below!
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The Perfect Leopard Coat

I’m not going to lie, it’s my first winter back in NYC and I’m already soooo over the cold! I feel like I’ve been wearing the same black winter coat, jeans and boots for weeks! The other day I decided it was time to add some pizzaz back into my winter wardrobe, so I pulled out my favorite leopard coat from last season. It completely turned my day around. Sounds dramatic, but you’d be amazed at what a fabulous coat can do for your spirit!!! The Perfect Leopard CoatWhy do I think *this* particular coat is the perfect leopard coat? I’ve owned several leopard print coats in the past, but I just can’t get enough of this one. First of all I love the slim cut, it’s not too bulky so you can wear it throughout the fall and spring, its warm and made of a super soft material, AND the leopard print is ultra classic so it doesn’t look cheap. Often times leopard print can look CHEAP. Not this one! It’s a best seller for a reason! FYI I do recommend sizing down as it does run about a size big. PS if you live in a warm weather place – definitely look into the duster version. PPS I also love this one! Faux Leather LeggingsI paired my coat with these BOMB faux leather leggings. Yes I just used the word BOMB because they’re just that good lol! I’ve been on the hunt for a good faux leather legging for years and these ones look 100% REAL and expensive. They feel soooo luxurious, and have a side zipper that you can barely see. They don’t stretch out, are a medium waist cut, come in short, regular or tall, and run true to size (I’m wearing a size 2 here.) PLUS they’re under $100! Sleek Black BootiesI’ve worked with Sarah Flint in the past and her shoes really are as comfy as people say they are. They sent me these black booties from their fall/winter collection and I truly love them. I found them to run about a 1/2 size big, so I recommend going down a 1/2 to a full size. I love that the heel is high enough to be able to wear them to a formal dinner, but I can also easily and comfortably walk miles around the city in them. The gold zippers on either side are a really elegant touch!
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