With Love
From Kat

With Love
From Kat

10 Things That Improved My Life

New York, NY

Looking back at 2019, all I can say is WOW. Profound, I know haha. But truly, this year surprised me in the most wonderful ways… There were SO many unexpected twists and turns and I am so grateful for what it taught me! I wanted to share 10 things that improved my life this year with you. These things all deeply impacted me, inspired me, and changed me for the better.

10 Things That Improved My Life


I’ve spoken about how beneficial meditation has been for me several times, but in case you’re new here, I have an entire blog post outlining my journey to meditation. I’ve been meditating everyday for almost 4 years now and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I know it will be a lifelong practice for me.


I’m a huge proponent of therapy and have been going weekly since I moved back to NYC. It has helped me process so many things that have gone on this year and made me a more level headed, clear, calm person. I wrote a blog post on How To Find A Therapist here!

Personal Trainer

I have a standing appointment once a week with a personal trainer. We box on and off, and do short circuits on and off for an hour. Having that weekly appointment holds me accountable and honestly is some of the best money I’ve ever spent. I’m so much stronger than I was when I was doing classes and cardio, and have way more energy than I did last year. I only workout once a week, unless I squeeze in a yoga class.


Listening to podcasts regularly has kept me inspired, taught me SO much, and helped me think outside the box. My favorites are; The Skinny Confidential Him + Her podcast, the Highest Self by Sahara Rose podcast, the Skimm’d from the Couch podcast, and the Second Life by Hilary Kerr podcast.

Taking Social Media Breaks

Social media is a powerful tool that comes with both positive and negative side effects. This year, I’ve made more of a conscious effort to live in the moment and be present! While I love sharing parts of my life online, not every single thing needs to be shared or documented. I encourage you to relish special moments – uninterrupted and phone free – with your loved ones!

Permission To Relax

Speaking of living in the moment and being more present…I’ve never been good at relaxing, sitting still, or straight chilling. As an older child, type A, over achiever, I’m always working, striving and achieving toward something. While those qualities are great and have no doubt helped me throughout my life and career, they can also lead to burnout and exhaustion. This year I gave myself permission to relax and surrounded myself with people who had a healthy work/life balance. At first I felt guilty for not being hyper productive 24/7 (sounds crazy I know!), but then I realized that some of my best ideas actually came during that down time.

The Quiet Book

This book has truly changed my life for the better! As someone who is half introverted and half extroverted, I’ve always struggled with understanding and embracing my introverted side. Society doesn’t celebrate the introvert. Introverts are often labeled as socially awkward or shy, but wanting a few hours of alone time to recharge and think doesn’t make you either of those things! I love that this book breaks down what makes an introvert an introvert, why it’s crucial to brainstorm solo, and celebrates introversion!

Regular Closet Clean Outs

I’ve always been an organized person, but living in NYC you have to be even more organized due to limited space. Living in an apartment again has pushed me to really evaluate what I need vs want. With less stuff I’ve been able to think more clearly and I just feel lighter. I have to be OBSESSED with something to buy it or bring it into my apartment these days, which honestly is great for my bank account haha! I wrote a post on How To Clean Out Your Closet here with some helpful tips.

Selective With Time

I’ve never been more selective with my time – and I’ve never been happier. I used to say yes to almost every incoming request and answer almost every email, DM, and comment. Week after week, my calendar would be packed with appointments, coffee meetings, events, parties, and calls that would drain me. I would spend HOURS answering DMs and comments and then barely have time to run a simple errand, create content, or even have a social life. Luckily, I learned how to delegate and Jesse from my team now does an amazing job filtering and answering the majority of correspondence. Don’t worry – I still get to read thoughtful personal comments or answer specific questions you send via a daily summary she creates for me – and btw I’m so grateful for them! Being more selective with my time has allowed me to think bigger picture, longer term, and create more meaningful content.

Embrace Compliments

As women, we often downplay ourselves – our achievements, our brains, our abilities. At least I have – especially in male dominated situations. I really started to think about this in the last year. I reflected on how, throughout my life, I’ve constantly filtered, downplayed or withheld my true self in an effort to be “socially appropriate” or not “outshine” anyone. I used to never be able to accept a compliment or comfortably talk about my career in a casual, conversational setting! For example, if someone would come up to me and say, “Your skin is glowing it looks so great!” I would awkwardly laugh, shake my head and look down, then say, “Oh it must just be the lighting, it’s not usually like this, but your skin looks incredible!” I deflected the compliment, instead of accepting it. I now say something like, “Thank you so much – that’s really kind of you!” I am happy that I can confidently and graciously accept compliments as well as openly talk about my career with enthusiasm and pride. My advice to you – is know your value, and own it! Be proud of it and let it shine bright!

Thank you!

*Lastly, how can I not mention one of the biggest things that has happened to me this year… I met my soulmate, my other half, the love of my life! I have so much more to say, share and talk about on that subject, but for now I will just say that it really does happen when you least expect it! Here’s to a happy, healthy, and successful 2020! Thank you as always for reading, supporting and sharing. It’s going to be the best year yet!

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  • Cathy, your Poor Little It Girl says:

    Social media breaks are huge, especially for us bloggers who feel like we always need to be “on”…it makes a huge difference in my mental well being!

    Cathy, your Poor Little It Girl

    January 3, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Yes – truly! So glad you can relate! XO

      January 3, 2020 | Reply
  • Anabela Barbosa says:

    Kat- loved reading this. Permission to relax is a really interesting concept that i sometimes forget about among several other topics you listed. Will need to try that one for 2020 as well as taking the time to listen more to my instincts. I truly believe 2020 will be better and incredible! Wishing you much continued success! Anabela

    January 3, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you Anabela! Yes it’s such an important one ;) Happy New Year!

      January 3, 2020 | Reply
  • Evelyn says:

    Kat! Great advice. Meditating is at the top of my list. Is there a program/app/ etc. That helped you get started? Also, just want to say how happy you seem now that you found your soulmate! You radiate happiness. Great example that big changes/leaps/risks (your move) can truly be the best thing for a person!! Love following along!

    January 3, 2020 | Reply
  • Em | BloomingMagnoliasBlog.com says:

    I love when you share book recommendations Kat! I’ll be adding “Quiet” to my reading list. Happy New Year!


    January 3, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Happy New Year!! xo

      January 3, 2020 | Reply
  • Jessica Camerata says:

    I tried reading Quiet and had such a hard time with it. I may need to do the audiobook since I’ve heard SO many good things about it. And hell yes to a social media break. I deleted IG off my phone for 10 days and it was GLORIOUS. As a blogger, that’s not always easy to do!

    xo Jessica
    My Style Vita

    January 3, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Yes try the audiobook!!! So glad you took a break too :)

      January 3, 2020 | Reply
  • Anastasia says:

    What a great and honest post! Thank you for sharing and inspiring others to make a change. Love reading your blog!

    January 3, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you <3 Happy New Year :)

      January 3, 2020 | Reply
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  • Lisa Autumn says:

    YESSS! I have to try to implement some of these.. meditation absolutely helped me as well :)

    Lisa | lisaautumn.com

    January 5, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      YES :)

      January 7, 2020 | Reply
  • Mariya Zafirova says:

    Taking a break from social media has definitely helped me too!

    Mariya | https://www.brunetteondemand.com/

    January 6, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So glad!!!

      January 7, 2020 | Reply
  • diana elizabeth says:

    This post made me so happy! Happy New year love!

    January 6, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you! :)

      January 7, 2020 | Reply
  • shianne says:

    love all these tips i need to get back into meditation ! that really helped me too

    January 9, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So glad! <3

      January 9, 2020 | Reply
  • Elise says:

    Thank you for this personal list of things that have improved your life! I’ve never heard of the quiet book! I can’t wait to learn more about introvertedness and embrace it. I need to start making closet clean outs a monthly practice.

    XO, Elise

    January 10, 2020 | Reply
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  • Alison says:

    Oh Kat! This is great advice ❤️

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