Advice

The Positivity Chain

With all of the tragedy going on in the world right now, I wanted to start a new series called; The Positivity Chain, where I highlight positive things that connected with me this week. It could be something that made me laugh, an amazing charity, a helpful tip, or an uplifting article. Each one of these things made me smile, and I hope it brings a little joy to you during this time as well. The Positivity Chain Meditation My meditation teacher is currently offering 50% off her online class to anyone and FREE classes to any medical professional on the frontlines. This is a HUGE discount and if you’ve ever considered meditating, I can’t recommend this online course enough. It changed my life and I’ve been meditating using this method every day for 4 years now – you can read all about my experience here! PS their Self Care Center is full of free tips/resources to get you through this stressful time. A Positive Email Chain My friend Juliette brought back the art of the email chain and created one which actually inspired the name of this series. Basically you send out the email below, and in return you’ll get a few positive, uplifting quotes delivered to your inbox from friends of friends over the course of a few days. It REALLY brightened my day to find an email from a stranger that had a meaningful phrase in it. It was something so small, free, and easy, but honestly brought me so much joy for the entire day. So the chain goes something like this (tweak the intro as you see fit!): “Hi all! I started an email collective for an uplifting exchange through Women (and Male) Leaders. It’s a one-time thing, and we hope you will participate. We have included those we think would be willing to participate and make it meaningful.  Please send a poem/quote/thought to the person whose name is in position 1 below (even if you don’t know them/her/him). It should be a favorite text/verse/meditation that has affected you. Don’t agonize over it. 1.          Friend’s name here2.          Your name here After you’ve sent the short poem/verse/quote/etc. to the person in position #1, and only that person, copy this letter into a new email. In the text, move my name to position #1, and put your name in position #2. Only my name and your name should show in the copy of the new email. Then send the email to yourself and BCC (blind copy) 20 friends.  It can be a combination of work and personal friends – whoever you think might appreciate it. It’s fun to see where they come from and what they say. Seldom does anyone drop out because we all need encouragement. The turnaround is fast, as there are only two names on the list, and you only have to do it once.” Ina Garten IGTV Cocktail Recipe I’m obsessed with Ina, and this hilarious cocktail video made me laugh hysterically. So I rewatched it several times – it’s just TOO GOOD! Ina Garten Cocktail Recipe Spoof My friend Nick created this spoof of the video that had me laughing so hard as well!!! My Weekly Newsletter I’ve always had a weekly newsletter, but recently I added a weekly recipe to it exclusively for subscribers. It’s been so fun sharing some of my favorite recipes, seeing you make them, and thinking about which recipe to include the next week. I really look forward to it, and it’s reignited my love of cooking/sharing recipes again! 20 New Things To Try Meghan wrote a post called “20 New Things To Try” and shared some great ideas that I’m inspired to try myself! My Therapist Says IG Account This account CRACKS ME UP. So I’m constantly forwarding these to friends and vice versa. Zoom Happy Hours It’s been so fun having “virtual” happy hours with friends and family over Zoom. So it’s a great way to stay in touch and get that quality face time with the people you care about! City Harvest Charity This is a wonderful charity in NYC that I made a donation to with proceeds from my closet sale. I will be continuing to donate to them after each sale! How To Help Others During This Time Grace wrote such a lovely article on ways we can help others during this time with detailed charities, initiatives and links. Stay safe and healthy – sending you all so much love! Ulla Johnson dress (similar, similar)
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10 Fun Date Night Ideas

Valentine’s Day is around the corner and maybe you’re like me and over the same ol’ dinner plans. Or maybe you’re just looking for a few fun date night ideas. Either way, I wanted to share a few of our favorite date nights and ways to switch things up a bit. (Send this to your hubby! ;0) Fun Date Night Ideas Game Night We LOVE playing Scrabble and got a special edition board from T’s sister for Christmas. I’m insanely competitive and we keep an ongoing score! We drink martinis and have cheese while we play! Cozy Night In Make homemade popcorn (it’s so easy and makes ALL the difference – all you need are kernels, coconut oil, pink sea salt and a pot!), and put on a classic movie like Casablanca, Thomas Crown Affair, or any of the James Bond movies. Whip up an Italian Dish Even if you can’t cook – it’s fun to try with wine flowing and classic Italian music playing in the background. Make a big cheese plate to nosh on so you don’t get hangry before the food is ready! Try lasagna, chicken parm, and turkey meatballs. Staycation Get out of your day to day environment and book a cool hotel for a night! Meet at the lobby bar, and enjoy all of the hotel amenities – from the pool to the spa, restaurants and more. It will totally spice things up. Do Something Sporty Bond with your man over his favorite sport – and let him teach you a technique or two. Think tennis, golf, go-kart racing! Get Fancy Get all dolled up and pick a hotel lobby bar to meet at. Then book a table at a fancy restaurant you wouldn’t normally try, and end the night at a jazz or comedy club. Sushi Night When all else fails, head to your best local sushi spot. Everyone can find something they like at a sushi joint plus it’s a very shareable food. Sit back, relax, maybe order a sake, and enjoy! Channel Your Inner Picasso Head to the closest art store and pick up paint, brushes and canvases. Pick a theme – or throw any boundaries out the window and just paint whatever your heart desires! See where the wind blows ya! Take A Class A cooking class, a wine tasting, an olive oil sampling, or a cheese pairing class are all perfect (and yummy) ways to switch up your typical date night. Couples Massage T and I love to go to this hole in the wall place in West Village for cheap 1 hour massages. I think it’s legit $40 for an hour!!! It’s such a nice treat and way to unwind together.
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How To Be Your Authentic Self

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” -Oscar Wilde It’s taken me 30 years to fully embrace my authentic myself. It has certainly not been easy getting here, but it feels so liberating to be where I am right now. Today, we are constantly bombarded with an influx of messages and images telling us everything from what to say, to what to eat, what to wear, and even how to feel. It can be extremely challenging to weed through all of the incoming stuff – and just get down what WE as unique individuals, actually WANT. So, What Do You Want? That’s the first question I ask myself everyday. What do I want to do? What do I want to wear? To eat? To read? Who do I want to see? Where do I want to go? I prioritize and put myself and my needs first before anything else. I put my mental and physical health above everything because I know that will help me be the best version of myself, and will allow me to think clearly and logically, and most importantly make decisions based off my intuition. Intuition Is Everything We all have an inner voice and a sense of intuition, however most of us sadly don’t listen to it. We listen and do what others want us to do, or what we THINK other people want us to do. We are influenced by magazines, ads, social media, our parents, our friends, coworkers, significant others – hell, even strangers! When was the last time you took a step back, and made a decision completely based on YOUR intuition without caring what anyone else thought? It’s not easy to do, is it? It’s so brave – and you have to be extremely strong, but exercising this muscle will ultimately allow you to become your authentic self. Stop The People Pleasing Doing solely what YOU want to do, can sometimes result in others disapproval. It may even cause an uproar, and be looked down upon – but would you rather have other people’s thoughts and opinions dictate your life from afar, OR would you rather live the life YOU want right here, right now? I have a friend who became a lawyer just because both of her parents were lawyers and they forced (OK strongly pushed) her to be one. They basically made it clear that any other job wasn’t good enough or acceptable. She went through YEARS of law school, internships, and jobs working insane hours and after all of that, is absolutely miserable today. She is always complaining about her job, her coworkers, her hours, lack of a social life, etc. I’ve known her my entire life and to see her so unhappy and drained truly breaks my heart. She’s a 30 year old grown woman, and yet she’s allowing her parents’ opinions to dictate her life which is stifling her true self. Her parents aren’t bad people, and at the end of the day they only want the best for her, but only she knows what’s best for her. You cannot let anyone, even loved ones, tell you how to live your life. It is your responsibility and duty to your SOUL to listen to and follow your intuition. You Do You If I had listened to, followed, or been swayed by every ad, article, friend, family member, and/or stranger that I encountered, I would not be where I am today. I cannot tell you how many people thought that blogging was a silly, frivolous hobby when I started it 9 years ago!!!! So many people looked at me like I was an ALIEN when I told them I had a blog in 2011. And do you know how many so called “industry experts” and managers I’ve met with over the years who have compared me to other bloggers they felt were relevant and encouraged me to do crazy/outlandish/new things to stay “cool?” They actually DISCOURAGED me from being consistent, classic, relatable, and well, MYSELF! If I had listened to ANY one of them I would not be in this position! It has NOT been easy to drown out the minutiae – especially as a young woman in a new industry that is still not taken very seriously! But, I am thankful for the doubters, the naysayers and the boxes that people have tried to put me in. I am thankful for every struggle and adversity I’ve faced because it helped me develop grit and determination which every single entrepreneur needs. Over the years, I dug deeper and leaned even harder into myself, my desires and my dreams. Doing so helped me cultivate a strong inner voice. I’m here to tell you; Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Don’t let anyone try to push you to be someone you’re not. Don’t let anyone put you down, belittle you, or manipulate you. And remember, take nothing personally. Hurt people only try to hurt other people period. Purge The Negativity One of the most important things I’ve done for myself is heavily filtering out the people I surround myself with. Gone are the days of “the more the merrier”, and in are the days of “quality over quantity.” People come in and out of our lives for many reasons. Some relationships don’t always last forever, and some go in ebbs and flows depending on where we are in our lives. Learn something from each and every relationship, and cultivate a positive, uplifting tight inner circle. Pull away from anyone who drains you, makes small digs/backhanded compliments, or simply can’t be happy for you. Life is too short! Be clear about what types of qualities and characteristics you want in friends, business partners, coworkers, and significant others – and you will slowly start to meet more people with those exact qualities. This is called manifestation and something that I do on a daily basis. Ask, visualize and you shall receive! Love Your Uniqueness We are all unique and we all have something special to offer the world. When we hone in on that, surround ourselves with good people, and listen to our intuition – everything starts flowing from there. That’s not to say there won’t be hard times, hiccups and barriers along the way. There will always be ups and downs in life, but if you create a solid foundation for yourself you’ll be able to handle anything that’s thrown at you on your own terms, with grace. “There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” -Dr. Steve Mariboli
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10 Things That Improved My Life

Looking back at 2019, all I can say is WOW. Profound, I know haha. But truly, this year surprised me in the most wonderful ways… There were SO many unexpected twists and turns and I am so grateful for what it taught me! I wanted to share 10 things that improved my life this year with you. These things all deeply impacted me, inspired me, and changed me for the better. 10 Things That Improved My Life Meditation I’ve spoken about how beneficial meditation has been for me several times, but in case you’re new here, I have an entire blog post outlining my journey to meditation. I’ve been meditating everyday for almost 4 years now and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I know it will be a lifelong practice for me. Therapy I’m a huge proponent of therapy and have been going weekly since I moved back to NYC. It has helped me process so many things that have gone on this year and made me a more level headed, clear, calm person. I wrote a blog post on How To Find A Therapist here! Personal Trainer I have a standing appointment once a week with a personal trainer. We box on and off, and do short circuits on and off for an hour. Having that weekly appointment holds me accountable and honestly is some of the best money I’ve ever spent. I’m so much stronger than I was when I was doing classes and cardio, and have way more energy than I did last year. I only workout once a week, unless I squeeze in a yoga class. Podcasts Listening to podcasts regularly has kept me inspired, taught me SO much, and helped me think outside the box. My favorites are; The Skinny Confidential Him + Her podcast, the Highest Self by Sahara Rose podcast, the Skimm’d from the Couch podcast, and the Second Life by Hilary Kerr podcast. Taking Social Media Breaks Social media is a powerful tool that comes with both positive and negative side effects. This year, I’ve made more of a conscious effort to live in the moment and be present! While I love sharing parts of my life online, not every single thing needs to be shared or documented. I encourage you to relish special moments – uninterrupted and phone free – with your loved ones! Permission To Relax Speaking of living in the moment and being more present…I’ve never been good at relaxing, sitting still, or straight chilling. As an older child, type A, over achiever, I’m always working, striving and achieving toward something. While those qualities are great and have no doubt helped me throughout my life and career, they can also lead to burnout and exhaustion. This year I gave myself permission to relax and surrounded myself with people who had a healthy work/life balance. At first I felt guilty for not being hyper productive 24/7 (sounds crazy I know!), but then I realized that some of my best ideas actually came during that down time. The Quiet Book This book has truly changed my life for the better! As someone who is half introverted and half extroverted, I’ve always struggled with understanding and embracing my introverted side. Society doesn’t celebrate the introvert. Introverts are often labeled as socially awkward or shy, but wanting a few hours of alone time to recharge and think doesn’t make you either of those things! I love that this book breaks down what makes an introvert an introvert, why it’s crucial to brainstorm solo, and celebrates introversion! Regular Closet Clean Outs I’ve always been an organized person, but living in NYC you have to be even more organized due to limited space. Living in an apartment again has pushed me to really evaluate what I need vs want. With less stuff I’ve been able to think more clearly and I just feel lighter. I have to be OBSESSED with something to buy it or bring it into my apartment these days, which honestly is great for my bank account haha! I wrote a post on How To Clean Out Your Closet here with some helpful tips. Selective With Time I’ve never been more selective with my time – and I’ve never been happier. I used to say yes to almost every incoming request and answer almost every email, DM, and comment. Week after week, my calendar would be packed with appointments, coffee meetings, events, parties, and calls that would drain me. I would spend HOURS answering DMs and comments and then barely have time to run a simple errand, create content, or even have a social life. Luckily, I learned how to delegate and Jesse from my team now does an amazing job filtering and answering the majority of correspondence. Don’t worry – I still get to read thoughtful personal comments or answer specific questions you send via a daily summary she creates for me – and btw I’m so grateful for them! Being more selective with my time has allowed me to think bigger picture, longer term, and create more meaningful content. Embrace Compliments As women, we often downplay ourselves – our achievements, our brains, our abilities. At least I have – especially in male dominated situations. I really started to think about this in the last year. I reflected on how, throughout my life, I’ve constantly filtered, downplayed or withheld my true self in an effort to be “socially appropriate” or not “outshine” anyone. I used to never be able to accept a compliment or comfortably talk about my career in a casual, conversational setting! For example, if someone would come up to me and say, “Your skin is glowing it looks so great!” I would awkwardly laugh, shake my head and look down, then say, “Oh it must just be the lighting, it’s not usually like this, but your skin looks incredible!” I deflected the compliment, instead of accepting it. I now say something like, “Thank you so much – that’s really kind of you!” I am happy that I can confidently and graciously accept compliments as well as openly talk about my career with enthusiasm and pride. My advice to you – is know your value, and own it! Be proud of it and let it shine bright! Thank you! *Lastly, how can I not mention one of the biggest things that has happened to me this year… I met my soulmate, my other half, the love of my life! I have so much more to say, share and talk about on that subject, but for now I will just say that it really does happen when you least expect it! Here’s to a happy, healthy, and successful 2020! Thank you as always for reading, supporting and sharing. It’s going to be the best year yet!
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