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The Home Buying Process

The Home Buying Process Buying a home is one of the most exciting things you can do in life!  It is incredibly rewarding and special. One of the most important aspects of the home buying process is choosing the right mortgage company to partner with. Rocket Mortgage has a proven track record – they have been simplifying the mortgage process for the past 35 years. I know so many of you are looking to purchase a home right now so hopefully this post will be helpful in your journey! I truly never thought I’d move out of a major city to the suburbs (I’m such a city person!) After the pandemic, we started to think about our long term goals and what we valued.  I realized that having space and being surrounded by nature was really important to me. Finding a home during the hot housing market was tricky, but when we walked into our home, I knew it was “the one” immediately. We loved how the previous owners updated it, and the only major thing we knew we wanted to change was the kitchen.  1 year later, we finished our kitchen renovation and I love the way it turned out!  It feels more modern and so “us.” Buying a Home is Rewarding It’s hard to put into words, the feeling you get when you turn the key and open the door to your first home – or any home that you buy for that matter!  It’s so rewarding to look around and know how hard we worked for this space.  It feels so good to really make it our own through special furniture, the kitchen renovation and unique, personal touches. When you’re buying a home, you want to feel confident. You don’t want to feel like you have a ton of unanswered questions. Rocket Mortgage makes the home buying process so much easier. When you apply for a home loan, there are different options depending on your situation and needs. With Rocket Mortgage, you can see how different down payments, monthly payments and closing costs will impact your loan and your budget. I love their technology-driven solutions to help streamline the mortgage process. They even offer a paperless experience in some cases. If you want help from an actual person, they’ve got that too – it’s whatever works best for you!  One of the best things about working with Rocket Mortgage is they work hard to meet you where you are. From 24/7 access to your account to their online Learning Center, they really try to make sure you’re comfortable and feel in control of your loan. I’m so excited to give you a peek into our home and share even more about the home buying process with Rocket Mortgage!
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10 Things That Bring Me Joy

It’s almost been 1 year since the pandemic began. It’s hard to believe isn’t it? In 1 year all of our lives have drastically changed. Each and every one of us have had to adapt to this “new normal.” This “new normal” looks different for everyone…but I think we can all agree it’s been a BIG transition. The transition has been easier for some, and harder for others. Little things like grabbing a casual drink with a friend at a bar on a whim are no longer possible. While the pandemic has certainly taken a lot of freedom and spontaneity out of our lives, it hasn’t taken all of the joy. I personally needed to remind myself of this the other day after hitting a bit of a “pandemic wall.” I wanted to share something I did to remind myself of the small, day to day things that bring me joy. 10 Things That Bring Me Joy It’s funny how the simplest, sometimes even silly, things bring us the most joy. While it’s great to splurge on something new or reach a big career milestone, it’s the small things throughout the week that really sustain our happiness. This past week I wrote down 10 totally random things that were bringing me joy. To see them on paper, really made them that much more meaningful and special. I encourage you to write down 10 things that bring you joy. And without judgement. It could be the smallest, silliest thing that no one else will understand but you. You may be surprised what your list is comprised of. It’s a good way to remind yourself what actually makes you happy – and reprioritize finding the time to do things like that throughout the week. When everyday starts feeling like Groundhogs day, pull out your list, and check in with yourself. Make sure you’re making time to do these small, little things that bring you joy. Because after all, that’s the whole point of life – to enjoy it. Hermes teacup (similar, similar)
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Benefits of Taking CBD

Benefits of Taking CBDCBD has gained immense popularity in the past few years, and for good reason.  I first learned about CBD when I was living in LA.  Practically everyone I knew was touting the benefits!  So what is CBD?  CBD is a natural ingredient found within industrial hemp flowers. It is clinically proven to impact mental and physical well-being, when taken properly and consistently. It is a powerful health agent, but there is no discernible impairment (no high!)  Over the years, I tested and tried a few CBD products, but nothing ever wow’d me until I tried Equilibria products. Equilibria CBDQualityWhat impressed me the most about Equilibria is their ingredient transparency.  I love that they share a Certificate of Analysis for every single one of their products!  One of the things I learned about CBD early on, was that you should really pay attention to where it came from and it should always be organic.  Equilibria’s products are organic, and free of metals, solvents, and VOCs (volatile organic compounds).  Their products typically feature 3-4x the cannabinoids and terpenes found in other mainstream, over-the-counter CBD products. Favorite ProductsI’ve tried all of the Equilibria products and my favorites are the Daily Softgels, the Daily Treatment Oil, and the Relief Cream.  I love the Daily Softgels because they don’t upset my stomach (I have a very sensitive stomach to any sort of vitamins, supplements or pills) and they make me more relaxed.  I found that taking 1 pill after lunch everyday around the same time has really helped my anxiety levels in a very subtle way.  You won’t feel a sudden, crazy drastic change with these, but after about a week I could really feel a difference – I was just calmer. Probably my favorite benefit though, is that it really helps alleviate my period pain.  I get the worst cramps and am usually knocked out for the first 2 days.  The gels combined with the Relief Cream during my period has become such a nice self care ritual.  The Daily Treatment Oil is a gorgeous face oil that doesn’t break me out, and makes my skin feel bright and hydrated.  I like to use it alone or with my gua sha when I need a little boost or before a shoot. Dosage SpecialistEveryone’s body chemistry is different.  What works for me, may not work for you.  You may need more or less of the combination of CBD products that I take to feel the full effects.  This is why the dosage specialists are so amazing.  You get a free phone consultation with every purchase and unlimited email support.  Their site also has an extensive FAQ that really breaks down everything you need to know about CBD.  I highly recommend chatting with their specialist before you start taking the CBD, or a week or two after to really understand how your body is taking to it!  I’d love to know what your experience has been with CBD, and if you have any questions please feel free to leave them below and I will forward them to their team. Sale!Starting today 2/17 until 2/20 buy any Equilibria product and get the second one (of lesser value) for 50% off! This promo can also be combined with your 15% off code KATTANITA that always works!  I would personally start with the Brilliance box and then treat yourself to the Body box which has the relief cream, mineral soak, and face oil!
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Breaking Up With Friends

I’ve been secretly struggling with something during the pandemic…I’ve been going through a friend breakup. If you’ve ever lost a friendship over the years you know how painful it can be. It can happen for big or small reasons, to short or long term relationships. But when it does happen, it almost feels like a death. It can actually be harder than a romantic breakup because in our society no one ever talks about friend breakups and it feels weird to say you’re even sad about it! There aren’t really movies about friend breakups, a ton of articles on “how to get over your ex friend”, or mainstream coping tactics like bingeing ice cream or going out on the town with the girls to get over it. Breaking Up With Friends Have You Ever Had a Friendship Breakup? When my friend Helena shared the article, “Have You Ever Had a Friendship Breakup?” from A Cup of Jo, I felt a huge sense of relief. Finally someone was talking about what I had been privately grieving all year. The article is beautifully written and talks about both sides to a friend breakup…from being ghosted, to doing the actual ghosting, and just even having a falling out – it’s shitty either way. I’ve been on both ends, and it can be incredibly painful and confusing. At least with a romantic breakup, you pretty much know what you both did wrong. You have a big argument or you just realize you’re not compatible, you talk about it, and then you part ways. There’s more closure you know? But for some reason, with a friend breakup there never really is. It’s not like you say to your friend after years of friendship, “I think you’re selfish and resentful, but let’s try and work it out and still be friends…” No, lol. Obviously that’s an exaggerated example of something you’d actually say. But what I mean is, it’s very uncommon for women to confront other women about what’s bothering them. And when they do, in my experience, it has resulted in the end of the friendship. In a romantic relationship, there’s a different element where people are willing to change, take advice/feedback, morph…but in a friendship, that element isn’t really there. It’s more black and white if that makes sense? Personal Experience I felt like I needed to give a little more personal background on the friend break up scenario I’ve been going through. I know that when people have shared their own stories about this, it’s really helped me cope, so here goes… The one I’ve been grieving and trying to process this past year was one of my oldest friends. We had known each other for 20+ years. We had lost touch a bit over those years because we went to different schools and lived across the country from one another. But we always managed to check in periodically. We grew closer later in life when she got engaged because she wanted me to be a part of all of the wedding excitement and events. It was wonderful to spend so much time together during that year. But after that, we went back to our normal periodic check ins. As time went on, she became extremely unhappy at her job and always seemed down when I’d ask about it. I would try to share something positive or exciting about my own job. But she could never listen to it and would make an excuse to get off the phone or change the subject right away. Over time, her resentment toward me became unbearable and extremely hurtful. I tried to brush it off. But ultimately, we got to a place where we just had nothing in common anymore. And our calls or get togethers felt like obligations. We never laughed or had fun together…we were just stuck in the past, talking about people we knew 20 years ago. The last straw for me was when I confided in her about something really upsetting that happened. She was one of the only people I told because she had known me the longest/and knew the context of the situation. After I poured my heart out to her, I thought I’d hear from her about it, via a supportive call or a text, or just a “How are you holding up?” but nothing came and weeks went by with no contact. I was devastated and embarassed that I had opened up to her. After that, I finally saw the writing on the wall. We were holding on to the past, but nothing else was holding us together. I never felt good after talking or hanging out with her. And if I could never share good news about my job or lean on her during hard times, what was the point of this so-called friendship? Months later, I did confront her about my hurt feelings after she asked where I had been. Unfortunately she got extremely defensive and tried to deflect. I had zero energy or desire left in me to salvage something that wasn’t working in the first place, so I let it be. Today, I feel a huge sense of relief without her in my life. I no longer have to live in the past and I no longer have to hide my happiness or joy to make her feel better. The best part is, that all of the energy and time I spent on that relationship has been put into so many other people and areas of my life that have blossomed during this time. Although I feel relief and have strengthened relationships around me, just the loss of someone who has been in your life (whether they were super supportive or not) is hard to wrap your head around. It’s still a shock to the system when anything like this happens. And it takes time to fully move on from. Lack of Closure I think the overall lack of closure that comes at the end of a friendship is what’s so hard. If you’re the one being ghosted, you’re usually clueless as to what you did wrong, and become hurt, confused, embarassed and/or upset. If you’re doing the ghosting you can feel guilty and ashamed for leaving them in the dark, but may not know what to say, and no longer have a desire to continue the friendship – even if the person changes. Even if there’s no ghosting involved, but there’s confrontation or an argument, it can often feel like there was so much left unsaid with a friend breakup. A few of you were DM’ing me asking how to approach these tricky scenarios. And to be quite honest, I’m really not sure. Every case is SO different and complex. Which is why, in the past, I liked to talk about them with my therapist before making a hasty decision I may regret. What ultimately has helped me is… My Advice The best advice I can give you is this. Life is SO short and you need to focus on what makes YOU happy. If a friend no longer makes you happy, and repeatedly drains you, brings you down, puts you down, shows jealousy, resentment, or anything that makes you feel BAD, then it’s probably time to say goodbye. You don’t have to say goodbye forever though! Many friendships can grow, evolve and change. Be open to that and know that is perfectly normal. I’ve had friends who I’ve naturally drifted a part from for no reason other than we lived far away. And then we came back together years later like no time had passed. I’ve also had friends who I just couldn’t relate to anymore so we lost touch. But years later found ourselves in similar situations and reconnected. I’ve also had friends who had been continually toxic for years and years. And who I knew deep down would never change. I made a pact with myself that I’d never let them or their bad energy in my life again. Sometimes people come into your life for a reason, but they’re not meant to be there forever. Cherish the good times you had, and let anything negative fall away. Every single situation and friendship will be different. But whatever your circumstances are, remember to trust your gut instinct. If you don’t know how to tap into that instinct, ask yourself, “Does this friend make me feel good about myself when I’m with them or talking to them? Can I be my 100% genuine self with them?” The answer to those questions will be very telling. It’s OK Just know that it’s OK to outgrow a friend. It’s OK to put yourself first. It’s OK to pull away from someone that makes you feel bad about yourself. And it’s normal to feel guilty or ashamed around a friendship breakup because it’s HARD! It’s uncomfortable, sad, painful – regardless of which side you’re on. Do all the self care things to process and move on from it. Go to therapy if you think it will help you. Open up to your other girlfriends about it (they may be struggling and embarassed to say they are too!) And most importantly, give yourself time and space to heal. I’ll end with this quote (source unknown); “The people who are meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, no matter how far they wander.” If a friend is meant to be in your life they will, if not, let them go.
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