Advice

Dealing With Uncertainty

2020 has brought a hell of a lot of uncertainty into our world. People everywhere are suffering to some extent, whether it be mentally, emotionally, physically, environmentally, financially… We are all living through a global pandemic and one of the most intense presidential races in history. Stress levels are HIGH and we have all been pushed in ways we never imagined or expected. Uncertainty is scary. Right now, we don’t know what lies ahead in regards to the pandemic, the election, the economy, and the environment. As humans, we crave certainty. We want answers, we want routine, and we want safety. This is only natural and normal. Some of us are more go with the flow and can ride the wave of uncertainty better than others, but at the end of the day, uncertainty is unnerving for everyone. I wanted to share how I’ve personally been dealing with the uncertainty of our country, our world, and my own life (which btw I’m by no means doing perfectly…) – in case you’ve been struggling to process all.of.the craziness! Dealing With Uncertainty Meditation I’ve been doing this meditation every morning for the past 4 years. You can read more it here. It makes me a calmer, happier, more focused person. You can use code KAT to get 40% off the online course! Lemon Water Having hot water with lemon every morning really soothes my digestion system and body when I wake up. It’s a simple ritual, but one I never miss. The lemon alkalizes my body (aka it basically helps keep any inflammation at bay.) Inflammation is toxic and comes from stress, certain food we eat, the environment, etc. so it’s crucial to constantly be doing things that reverse it. I know many people simply squeeze the lemon juice into their water and toss the lemon itself, but you actually want to put the lemon slice with the peel into the water since the peel has a ton of amazing nutrients. Volunteer If you’re feeling stuck, get outside your own head and find a local charity in your community to get involved with. All I had to do to find one in my area was google the town + charity – and hundreds popped up. I also asked many of you on stories which local charities you recommended, and got great suggestions which helped me narrow it down to the one I am currently involved with. If you don’t feel comfortable volunteering in person, then you can volunteer by dropping off canned goods, winter coats, or school supplies. There are so many people in need right now – literally charities are overwhelmed with requests. Now is the time to give back in your hometown. Think globally, act locally. Scheduled Weekly Workout I have a scheduled workout in my calendar once a week that I never miss. Having it set up consistently, really sets the tone for my week. Exceptions are when it falls on a vacation (I am just not one of those people who works out on vacation) or when it falls on my period (I follow Alisa Vitti’s Flo Living cycle syncing advice – it’s a game changer.) Hart of Dixie + Lighthearted Media Hart of Dixie may be the cheesiest show ever lol! I actually tried watching it yearsssss ago, and couldn’t because I thought it was so bad. BUT I gave it another try a few months ago, and am so glad I did (it definitely gets better toward the end of Season 1.) The world needs more cheesiness, fun, laughter, romance, positivity, you know? This show provides a brief, happy escape – highly recommend. Other lighthearted shows I love to watch can be found here…Schitt’s Creek is a GREAT one if you haven’t already watched it. Puppy Love If you don’t have a dog, and can have one, I highly recommend rescuing one! What better time than now to rescue a sweet animal in need?! I rescued my sweet Charlie 3 years ago from Vanderpump Dogs in LA, and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Dogs bring SO MUCH JOY to life. Therapy Your insurance plan may cover a certain amount of therapy sessions per year for free! Or you may even just have to pay a $15 copay so it never hurts to call and ask. If not, there are a ton of wonderful resources – I wrote a post about how to find a therapist here. I personally really appreciate having someone neutral to speak to a few times a month about whatever is going on in my life. A trained professional that you trust, can often have incredible insight, wisdom and advice. Edit This year has really made me think about who and what I want to spend my time and energy on. I’ve really edited the content I consume, the people I talk to, the businesses I support. Edit out the negative, uninspiring or anything that doesn’t sit well with you! Don’t feel bad about doing so either – this is your life after all. Get Inspired Order any one of Brene Brown’s books – she’s the best. Pick up a biography of someone you’ve always admired or been interested in. If you’re stuck, here’s a list of books I love. Own It If you’re feeling lonely; own it. If you’re feeling jealous; own it. If you’re feeling depressed; own it. Don’t try to fight or hide your feelings. The best thing you can do, is admit and acknowledge whatever is going on, no matter how much you may not want to look at it. You can’t fix a problem or move past it until you OWN and acknowledge it. Write it down, tell a close friend or family member, share these feelings with your significant other, or therapist. Get it off your chest, I promise you will feel so much better rather than constantly trying to distract or stifle whatever it is that you’re feeling. Those feelings won’t go away unless you face them head on, you know? Again, I am by nooooo means an A+ passenger in this global pandemic, political, quarantine fiasco we are going through at the moment, but these are just a few things that have massively helped me stay sane with all of the uncertainty surrounding us. Anything helping you during these challenging times? Would love to know <3
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How To Write a Maid of Honor Speech

My sister Kameryn got married this time last year, and I was lucky enough to be her Maid of Honor. I wanted to share a few tips when it comes to writing the perfect Maid of Honor speech. These tips can also be applied to rehearsal dinner speeches! How To Write a Maid of Honor SpeechSit and reflectTrust me, I know what it feels like to have writers block. The best thing you can do when it comes to writing a speech, is pull up photos of you and the Maid of Honor. Have a piece of paper, or a Word doc open on your computer, and just start jotting down silly and special memories that you two share. Write down sweet things that the bride has said about her husband. Jot down a few sentences about how you know each other. This part can be messy and it will make sense later when you edit it all together. OutlineA little “outline” I’ve used for my MOH speeches is to start with the bride’s name. I think it’s really personal and intimate to look at the bride and start off with her name to sort of address her first before anyone else. Then I started my speech with, “Kameryn, it is such an honor and joy to be here on your wedding day.” Then, I took a long pause and looked around the room. I shared a few sentences about our childhood which introduced me to guests without having to formally introduce myself in an obvious way. I then talked about what Kameryn said to me when she first met Rob. The setting they were in, her reaction, and just a few sweet details about their early days of dating. Lastly, I circled back to Kameryn and talked about how Rob brought out the best in her and how excited I am for this next chapter. Throughout the speech I looked at the bride and groom, and glanced around the room 2-3 times. At the very end, I grabbed my champagne glass and made a closing toast congratulating the newlyweds. Then I hugged both Kameryn and Rob (and cried tears of joy and relief too haha!) Edit and CondenseIt usually takes me about 4-5 different versions to finally land on the one I am going to use. Speak the versions out loud to make sure that sentences and words flow as you make your edits. Keep it short and sweetI’ve given 2 Maid of Honor speeches now, and witnessed a handful, and the key is to keep it short and sweet. People get lost and tune out after 2 minutes, so aim for 2 minutes max. A nice 1 minute 45 second speech is ideal! Practice Practice PracticeOnce you’ve written your speech down and fine tuned it, practice saying it slowly in front of the mirror at least 3-4 times. When you actually give your speech, nerves will make you speak faster than you mean to, so be sure to keep reminding yourself to slow down! Speech paperI highly recommend printing or writing your speech out on a beautiful piece of thick stationary so that you can give it to the bride as a memento after the wedding. Don’t make the same mistake I did years ago, and read the speech off the notes section on my phone! I thought it would be lower profile than a piece of paper, but the blue light from the phone looked bad in photos and just took away from the traditional moment – lesson learned! Also, I don’t recommend memorizing the speech, because you never know what nerves can do to you in the moment. NervesI have a huge fear of public speaking. Always have, and probably always will! The best advice I can give for a MOH speech is to have a few sips of a cocktail (not too much LOL) to ease your nerves, and just really make this a moment between you and the bride. Angle your body slightly toward the bride so it feels more safe and intimate, and you can focus on what the speech is truly about. Speak from your heart and you will do great! You got this!
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Taking Care of Your Pup

It makes me so happy to hear how many of you have adopted dogs in the last few months! Dogs are truly the greatest companions and rescuing Charlie 3 years ago was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I shared a blog post last year on how to take care of a dog. Packed full of tips and details on his food, treats, toys, training, etc! Today, I’m so excited to talk about something that I was only made aware of a few months ago, and is SO important to look out for in our pups; osteoarthritis (OA.) Osteoarthritis in Dogs What is Osteoarthritis? Osteoarthritis is a painful condition caused by the wear and tear of cartilage and joints that can have physical and emotional effects on your pup. Around 37% of dogs of all ages, sizes and breeds get it1! How To Detect Osteoarthritis Signs to look out for are; limping, decreased activity or exercise, stiffness or decreased movement of joints, sadness, and also a drop in energy level. Dogs can often hide signs of pain so it can be hard to recognize when they have OA. Zoetis Petcare offers a simple OA canine checklist that I personally took for Charlie and it really helps breakdown all of the symptoms and behavioral changes you should look out for in your pup. While OA can’t be cured, it can be treated, so I highly recommend going through this simple checklist and talking to your vet about it. A Healthy Dog = Happy Dog A healthy dog is a happy dog! There’s nothing worse than knowing – or not knowing that your pet is in pain or suffering. This quick checklist and a chat with your vet is a great way to get peace of mind and make sure they are always feeling their best. Seeing Charlie happy, comfortable, energetic, and relaxed is the most important thing. I love when his tail wags and his tongue hangs out waiting for a treat or a bite of my food! It melts my heart :) PS for those asking Charlie is a Dachshund Terrier rescued from Vanderpump Dogs in LA. 1 Wright, A., Amodie, D., Cernicchiaro, N., Lascelles, B. and Pavlock, A., 2019. PVM1 DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT RATES OF OSTEOARTHRITIS IN DOGS USING A HEALTH RISK ASSESSMENT(HRA) OR HEALTH QUESTIONNAIRE FOR OSTEOARTHRITIS IN GENERAL VETERINARY PRACTICE. Value in Health, 22, p.S387.
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Life On Your Own Timeline

Life On Your Own TimelineLiving life on your own timeline requires courage. Society, friends, family, and even strangers all seem to have an opinion on when you should or shouldn’t be doing things. Everything from what age you should get married at, what age you should have children at, when you should buy a house, when you should start a new job, when you should move in together…the list goes on and on. Societal Pressures on WomenWomen in particular are faced with an insane set of unspoken societal standards aren’t they? When I turned 31 last year, I personally felt it more than ever before. It felt like an invisible rulebook or guide that was out there saying you should get married as soon as possible, have babies right away, and buy a house with a white picket fence, all while working full time and looking perfect! Personal ExperienceJust a few of these “standards/rules” that I’ve been subjected to myself… When I was first starting my business, I remember someone who told me I wasn’t ready, that I should write a 10 page business plan, and that I needed years more of experience. Luckily, I completely ignored them and started anyway. 10 years later, I still do not have a “10 page business plan” and the person that gave me the advice is no longer in business. Another time, I was telling a friend that Thomas and I were moving in together after dating for 3 months. The person said that it was too fast and I shouldn’t do it. I ignored that advice and listened to my instinct, which turned out to be right. Moving in together was one the best decisions I’ve ever made. Moral of the story, you’re in charge of your life. Only YOU know what’s right for YOUR life. No one else can be sure of what will or won’t work for you, so do YOU. Transitional PeriodsThis timeline that we all feel or have felt at some point in our lives, isn’t talked about enough and I really wanted to open up the conversation around it. I know many of you are in a transition period. Whether it be moving out of a city, starting a new job, looking for a job, trying to find someone nice to date (or maybe you don’t even want to date at all but you feel pressure to!), trying to get pregnant, deciding you don’t want children, buying a home (or selling all of your belongings and road tripping!), eloping, planning a wedding, you name it. These are all such exciting things, but I do I know how they can often bring up a LOT of outside judgement, anxiousness, and a deep sense of urgency. Breaking the MoldSomething I’ve always told myself is, “If you want to live an extraordinary life, then don’t live an ordinary life.” As cheesy as it sounds, I’ve always dared to dream big and pushed the boundaries on almost everything in my life. I believe in doing what you want, when you want, and asking for permission LATER. As organized and regimented as I can be at times, I’m also an incredibly free spirit. I believe in going to the beat of your own drum. How To Respond To OthersDon’t conform to other people’s standards, instead make your own. Don’t feel pressured to do something just because everyone else is doing it! If you’re 35 and single, and have no desire to date, but your parents keep pressuring you to settle down, simply tell them, “I really appreciate you thinking of me. I’m doing what’s best for me right now. Thank you so much for respecting that!” If you’re newly married and your in-laws keep asking when you’re having a baby say the same thing, “I really appreciate your interest. Right now, I’m focusing on doing what’s best for me.” If you’re feeling like everyone around you is settling down or somehow “ahead” of you in certain areas of their lives, remind yourself, “I’m in charge of my own life. I’m lucky to be able to live life on my own timeline. I love having this freedom and I trust the process.” If you’re feeling judged from strangers on your decision to not have children say, “I really appreciate you thinking of me. This is what’s best for my life. I really hope you’re doing what’s best for yours!” If you’re feeling pressure to start a new job or project say, “I appreciate your sentiment. I’m glad you have faith in my decision making and know that I’m going to do what’s best for me.” Never AssumeIt’s all how you look at, react and approach a situation. You can see the glass half full or half empty, you know? We cannot compare our lives and trajectories to others. The person we see in our community or on Instagram, who has “checked” all of society’s boxes and seems to be living the “perfect life” (PS there is no such thing!) may very well be privately struggling with something. We honestly just never know what goes on in people’s lives! This is why it’s SO important to never compare ourselves to others when we haven’t walked a mile in their shoes. I hope that you always live life on your own timeline – regardless of whether or not it’s popular or understood. I hope that you give yourself credit for how much strength and courage it takes to carve your own path and do your own thing – I know it’s not easy! At the end of the day, we only get one life and you’ve got to make sure you’re living it for YOU! Never, ever stop going to the beat of your own drum, I know I won’t! xx
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