What to Wear to a Black Tie Wedding
Beverly Hills, CA

Derek and I attended a beautiful, Hollywood black tie wedding at the Beverly Hills hotel over the weekend.  My former assistant married the most wonderful guy and looked like an absolute princess!  It was so special to attend a wedding with Derek…I must admit I couldn’t help fantasize about my own someday!  A few of you have been asking about how Derek and I met so I thought I’d share our story here…

About 9 months ago I had “given up” on dating.  I dated quite a bit over the years since my last relationship ended.  I was dating just to date…I was dating to try and get over my ex, appease friends and family who were constantly asking me if I was dating, and fill the void/loneliness I felt from being single.  I had never really learned how to enjoy alone time as an adult and got so used to being in a relationship for 8 years of my life.

Finally, after a string of terrible dates and a ton of weirdos…I decided to take a step back and just SIT WITH MY LONELINESS.  This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.  I stopped filling the void and pain I felt with distractions like big group dinners, parties, clubs, events, etc. because they were all just acting like a bandaid!   The first few weeks of cutting back on my social life was pretty brutal – not gonna lie.  I felt the sadness creep back in, I felt depressed, doubted if I was doing the right thing and just felt really confused/out of sorts as a result of breaking up my old coping patterns.  But, nonetheless I told myself to stick with this bumpy, uncomfortable period and committed to staying home, journaling, reading, watching silly movies, and going for long walks on the beach.  I bought a dog – my sweet Charlie who changed my life forever and taught me how to love again! – and created a little routine for myself.  In the mornings, Charlie and I would wake up, go for walks on the beach, and grab a matcha at Butchers Daughter before heading home.

This period of having a routine to look forward to, practicing self care and staying in every weekend lasted about 3-4 months and I was able to find my groove again.  I learned what self care was all about and I stopped thinking about dating all together.  I started to enjoy being single – it meant I had more time for all those single girlie things I love doing like eating take out in bed, putting on black clay face masks at night, and watching cheesy rom coms/Bravo!

One week, while I was out and about walking Charlie, I happened to pass this tall, dark handsome man – Derek – 6 times!  On the 6th time of passing him, I saw him stop at his mailbox which happens to be 2 doors down from mine (I now know he purposely stopped ;)), and just said, “Hi I’m Kat – I’m your neighbor!”  He introduced himself, we made a bit of small talk – and it turned out we had both moved from big cities (he moved from San Francisco and I moved from NYC) to Venice the exact same month!  He asked for my number and suggested we grab a coffee and the rest is history!  We rode off into the sunset and everything was peaches and rainbows!!! LOL KIDDING!

All relationships have their ups and downs and take work – but I am truly grateful that the universe brought Derek and I together – I really do believe it was fate!  I used to roll my eyes at the sayings “You’ll meet someone when you least expect it” “The second you stop looking for someone you’ll find them” and “You have to fall in love with yourself first before you can love anyone else” but as cheesy as they may sound – they could not be more true.

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Jill Jill Stuart dress (25% off here and here) // Lariat necklace (similar)
Kotur clutch (similar) // Hugo Boss suit, shoes, and shirt

Jessica Alexander Photography

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20 Comments

  • Elle says:

    Love this cute little story Kat and that dress…you look AMAZING. xo elle

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Faith says:

    You are stunning and are glowing in these pictures! You both make a beautiful couple.

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Rach says:

    Seriously so happy for you! And it is so true that you’ll meet someone when you least expect it. I used to roll my eyes and then that’s how I met my husband ha! Btw, you two look stunning!

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    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • La Bijoux Bella | by mia says:

    Look g beautiful and goddess like in this flowy red dress … absolutely stunning as always! 💗👍🏼💗

    🌸🍃LA BIJOUX BELLA 🌸🍃| By Mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Sam says:

    Your story is so relatable – I’m so happy you shared! You two make such a good looking couple :)

    xo Sam
    http://www.thecurrentclassic.com

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Natali says:

    Good Lord woman, you left me speechless!!! If somebody looks like a total goddess then it’s you in this majestic dress. You both look astonishing together. :)

    https://lartoffashion.com/3-ways-to-instantly-feel-better/

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Jennifer says:

    Aw! Very sweet and great story. Fate really has its ways around our life. Thanks for sharing. :)

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Lisa says:

    Love this post! You guys make such a cute couple and you look genuinely happy inside and out. So happy for you two :-) and yes it’s so true that we always meet the right person when we don’t expect it!

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
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  • Nisha @ Honey, What's Cooking says:

    I loved reading this story. i went through something similar, but I actually stopped blogging and it affected everything. You handled your situation so well. Moving to the OC from NYC in 2 months for love. This post made me smile. Thanks for sharing Kat.

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Liz says:

    He is not only gorgeous but seems very sweet friendly and funny – you deserve it!

    April 10, 2018 | Reply
  • Colleen Heffernan says:

    This post made my day, and is a healthy reminder to let go of the constant pressure to go on dates or “find the one.” Thank you! :)

    P.S. – Your red dress is everything!

    April 11, 2018 | Reply
  • Michelle Johnson says:

    You guys are so cute together! I’m so happy you met him! You look amazing in that red dress! p.s. he looks great dressed up like that with the sunglasses on! lol You guys look like movie stars!

    April 11, 2018 | Reply
  • Hub City Girl says:

    Y’all are so cute, Kat, and I loved reading your story. You are gorgeous in red!

    April 13, 2018 | Reply
  • Melodie says:

    Kat that is so wonderful!!! I’m so happy for you! You guys make a stunning couple, and you were absolutely right, it is so important to get to know and love yourself 1st. We teach others how to treat us and if you don’t know yourself how can one accomplish this!! Best wishes in the future!

    Mel

    April 13, 2018 | Reply
  • Weekend Reading. - The Stripe says:

    […] just loved this post from Kat – giving up on dating and then meeting the greatest […]

    April 14, 2018 | Reply
  • Brigitte V says:

    Wonderful story… couldn’t agree more…Congratulations!! ❤️

    April 14, 2018 | Reply
  • Catherine says:

    You both look fantastic! Great dress :)

    April 14, 2018 | Reply
  • Shelley says:

    Yay! I’m so happy for you! You’re an awesome inspiration and the full package! Blessings to you and Derek! Enjoy each other…You two make a gorgeous couple..

    April 15, 2018 | Reply
  • Sam says:

    love this Kat!! you look absolutely stunning and of course Derek looks great as well !!

    April 16, 2018 | Reply