I Moved Back to NYC!

Soho, NY

I’m so excited to share I’ve moved back to NYC! It feels insane to type out those words! When I moved from NYC to LA 2 years ago, I never thought I’d move back to the city. I truly thought that LA would be the place where I planted my roots. Life is funny that way – it’s full of twists and turns, ups and downs, curveballs, and surprises. You never really know what’s going to happen or how you’ll feel days, weeks or months from now about something. Things change, people change, places change. We grow up, evolve, and mature.

When I moved to LA 2 years ago, it was because I was completely and utterly burnt out and needed a break from the hustle/bustle of NYC. I fell in love with the relaxed beach town Venice one summer. I didn’t want to leave after a week of bliss riding my bike in the sunshine and strolling down Abbot Kinney. It was truly paradise! I loved the laid back vibe, small neighborhood feel, gorgeous weather, health conscious mindset, walkability, and proximity to the ocean that Venice offered. My body instantly felt at ease in LA. And after years of struggling with digestion issues, Vitamin D deficiency, and sky high cortisol levels, I knew that’s where I needed to be. A few months after visiting, I packed up my life in NYC and moved into my dream house 3 blocks from the beach!

Moving to LA, was one of the best life decisions I’ve ever made.

Being in LA, and taking a step back from my work and life in NYC, allowed me to get in touch with myself and ultimately became the woman I wanted to be. So many incredible things happened during my time there. I healed my digestion, I rescued my dog Charlie, I fell in love with my next door neighbor Derek, I learned to stop and smell the roses, I developed self care rituals, I made incredible friends, I wrote a cookbook, and I discovered a whole other side of myself! LA taught me how to slow down and appreciate nature, peace + quiet, and the art of doing nothing.

About 6 months ago, I started to feel like something was missing from my life in LA. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it at first, but when I visited NYC in October I knew. I missed living in the city. I missed walking outside my door and having tons of amazing restaurants, shops, museums, parks, and more all around me. I missed the energy, the excitement, the culture, the people, the pace, the work ethic, the ambition, and the REALNESS. Sure, Venice – and all of the towns within LA have great restaurants, shops, museums, parks, etc. But one of my readers who has lived in both NYC and LA couldn’t have said it better; LA doesn’t have SOUL! NYC has SOUL! It has DEPTH. It has grit and quirks, it’s romantic, and it’s the place that makes me feel the most alive.

Every city has its pros and cons.

There’s no such thing as a “perfect” place. A city could be the right fit for you for at a certain time period in your life and then you could outgrow it or crave something else. Listen to your gut. You know what’s best for you and that feeling will ultimately lead you to the place you’re supposed to be. Don’t get stuck. You’re not trapped or tied down to one place. If you’re unhappy move. If you’re itching for something different, go explore. If you feel stifled, get out. Embrace change – don’t fear it. Look at obstacles and jump over them! Put your mental health and wellbeing first before anything else. That is my advice if you’re contemplating a move!

I’m now living in an apartment in Soho with my sweet puppy Charlie.

I love my new home and I’m pinching myself that I get to be back here surrounded by such hardworking, talented, driven people! This city really does push me to be the best version of myself. I’m grateful that I have the energy to enjoy it again, and the mindset to not get overwhelmed by it.

Derek, who I was dating for a little over a year, and who is still the love of my life, is not living with me, and instead pursuing his dream in San Francisco. He got a once-in-a-lifetime job offer that he couldn’t refuse from a company in Silicon Valley and moved there 3 weeks ago. This business deal was a loooong time coming and something I knew may go through despite our original plan and desire to move to NYC together.

I could not be happier for him – it’s such a huge opportunity and something he’s worked so hard for. He and I had discussed being bicoastal and doing long distance, but ultimately I did not want to (and could not see us both realistically) flying back and forth on a 6 hour flight every other week (especially with Charlie) to maintain our relationship. He’s one of my best friends and someone I will always adore and admire. I don’t know what the future holds for us, but I feel a sense of comfort knowing that everything really does happen for a reason – and that we are both living out our dreams.

Thank you for all of the sweet messages and comments about my move.

I am always so humbled to be connected to you and receive such a thoughtful outpouring of support. Trust me – I wanted to answer all of your DMs and share this exciting news sooner, but so many things have been up in the air these past few weeks!

I honestly didn’t even know where I was going to live in NYC until about a week ago. Also, I was trying to quickly move out of my LA house since someone wanted to rent it sooner than my lease was even up! Crazy! Anyways, I’ll be unpacking and getting settled over the next few weeks. I can’t wait to share more apartment updates along the way. I’m having a lot of fun decorating this place. It’s a totally different vibe from my beach house! I hope you have a wonderful weekend! xx

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78 Comments

  • Roses for Fridays | by mia says:

    Yes indeed, the heart will want what the soul is missing. I am happy that you find happiness in NYC. Cannot wait to see more updates in your new place too. Wishing you all the very best from this point on.

    🌸🍃ROSES FOR FRIDAYS 🌸🍃| by mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much love!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Lisa Heller says:

    Good for you! So inspiring! Love all the hard work you put into your job. Best wishes for 100% happiness!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Lisa Autumn says:

    Such a dream place to live! All the best Kat!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you ;)

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Rach says:

    Congratulations on your move! I really admire that you focus on your well being and willing to take risk for it. So excited to see more NY posts!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much :)

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Patricia A Grant says:

    Happy Housewarming, Kat! Cheers to good health, and a brand new adventure!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Marta says:

    Growing up I always thought that when I moved out I’d move somewhere near my parents house because I like our city and the area (it’s close to everything and even if things aren’t close we have a huge line of transportation and can get anywhere quickly and at a small price) and follow the steps of my brothers who both live at most 15 minutes away but over the past year or so I’ve been contemplating if that’s really what’s right for me. I need to go on a road trip and visit different cities in my country and see where I feel the most at home (I already have a couple of ideas anyway). I wish you the best in your move and I’m sure you’re gonna feel so happy being back there. It takes a lot of courage to leave a place and look for something new in life.

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much <3

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Veronika Novotny says:

    Congrats on your move!! How exciting, and SO happy so many wonderful things have come into your life. You deserve all the happiness!! xo

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you my dear!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Katie says:

    This post made me SO happy! Thrilled for you, Kat! Welcome back to NYC!!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Aw thanks lady!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Sarah says:

    I’m so happy for you, Kat! You sound so grounded and at peace. I hope you know how inspiring it is that you’re following your heart and your gut and not missing out on opportunities due to fear of change. Really needed this reminder today! Maybe I’ll bump into you here in NYC!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you! It’s taken a long time to get to this place but I do feel really at peace! <3 I hope we get to cross paths too :)

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Claire V says:

    So admire your courage in doing what’s best for you – even if that means moving your whole life across the country! Looking forward to all of your adventures in NYC. Thanks for taking us along the ride!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thanks for the sweet message Claire :) You’re always so supportive!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Jennifer F says:

    I am so happy for you, Kat! I feel like I’m one of your OG followers and somehow I knew you would end up back in NYC. I think it was when you were visiting the city around last fall with your mom and sister and I could tell your heart was still there.
    Wishing you all the best!!!

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you ;) Yes you were right!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Em @ BloomingMagnoliasBlog.com says:

    Ah Kat, reading this was bittersweet, especially the part about Derek! I’m still rooting for the two of you, but what’s meant to be will be. Lots of love to you – can’t wait to see what’s next for you!

    https://www.bloomingmagnoliasblog.com

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you! Yes it was very bittersweet! I’m trusting the process <3

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • DK says:

    Congratulations Kat!! I’m so happy for you and excited for this new adventure in your life! Thank you for sharing your experience with us. You’ve been so thoughtful about all these changes and it’s refreshing to hear. I moved from the east coast to the west coast and back, all within the last year and landed in New York too! I could not have imagined living here earlier in my life but now I love it! Hope to meet you soon in real life! Wishing you the very best!! – Dany

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much Dany! I hope we get to cross paths too!

      April 5, 2019 | Reply
  • Huong says:

    You’re a great writer, Kat! I could tell this post was full of emotions. From sadness of ending a chapter to the excitement of the familiar (yet also unknown), that’s what life is truly all about. It’s messy, but the mess is evidence of you living a purposeful life.

    It may sound weird to say this, but I’m glad to see that you and Derek had a discussion of possibilities to try and see what each of you wanted. To me, it’s so important that every relationship has this kind of understanding. I firmly believe one person can’t “follow” the other person around while the other is pursuing their dreams (unless they want to) otherwise, there will be major resentment there later on down the road.

    It’s so important that both people are living their dreams. People shouldn’t complete each other, they compliment one another as it’s a partnership.

    That said, I’m glad you guys still support each other and are good friends. That’s proof that you guys really still do care about one another. You just never know what’s going to happen. ;)

    All seriousness aside, I can’t wait to see your NY content again along with how you’ll decorate your new place now that you’re back! xo

    She Sweats Diamonds

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much. So true! I’m excited to share my NY content again!

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Bronte says:

    Yay welcome back to New York! We’re SO happy to have you <3

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thanks lady – so excited for this year!

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Tracy Shelton says:

    I’m so happy for you & Charlie! I love following both of you on IG ! Sending love ♥️& hugs 🤗 to both of you .

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Aw thanks Tracy!!!

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Maria says:

    I really appreciate how candidly you share your journey. Your posts brighten my day and your eye for asthetics is impeccable. May this new phase of your journey bring peace and love. Sending love and light.

    April 5, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you :)

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Laurel says:

    Hi Kat,
    Congratulations on following your beautiful spirited heart. I am so happy for you!!! Best of luck. My son Erik lives in nyc too. Can’t wait to see all you have to share . Xoxo laurel

    April 6, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you Laurel! Aw I didn’t know that! Hopefully Kameryn and I will get to run into him :)

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Katherine says:

    Congrats! I left NYC a year ago after 19 years there and I still miss it! So impressed how you gracefully navigate these major life changes and continue to produce beautiful content in the midst of them!

    April 6, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much Katherine!

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • A Girl, A Style says:

    Congratulations on the move, Kat! I’m so sorry it was bittersweet, but I have no doubt that everything will work out exactly as it’s meant to. Sending so much love and good vibes for this next chapter of yours!

    Briony xx

    April 6, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Aw thank you so much Briony! <3

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Gocha says:

    Congrats, Kat! Life is full of suprises, this is true…

    April 7, 2019 | Reply
  • Meghan says:

    So happy to have you back here!!

    April 7, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So excited to see you <333

      April 7, 2019 | Reply
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  • Danielle says:

    I would love to know the process of how you found an apartment in New York! We are considering moving there from LA and the apartment hunting process seems so daunting there!

    April 9, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Absolutely I will share!

      April 9, 2019 | Reply
  • Kenzie says:

    Kat- love this post!! I am so happy for you! Your place already looks amazing and I am excited to follow along on your journey. I really appreicate your maturity yet realness with life! Your posts always leave me feeling better :)

    XOXO

    PS- where is this light fixture from?

    April 9, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thanks lady! :) I’m not sure where the fixture is from – it was actually in the apartment when I moved in!!! <3

      April 9, 2019 | Reply
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  • Sarah says:

    I have always wanted to move to LA for the same reasons… California has been my escape from NYC for the past few years. Of course my goal is to have a bicoastal life since I clearly can’t make a decision of which city to live in haha
    But i do agree that LA has such a vibe that will relax any New Yorker for the best of reasons <3

    So excited for you and new your adventure… you are so brave to share everything happening in your life and have such a positive outlook about it!!

    Xx Sarah
    http://www.indecisivelystylish.com

    April 15, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you Sarah!

      April 15, 2019 | Reply
  • Nicolette says:

    I’m SO happy for you – and truthfully, have been considering the same for quite some time. Can’t wait to catch up back in our dear NYC!!

    April 15, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Aw thanks lady! I know you love both coasts like I do – you really do get the best of both worlds! Can’t wait to see you soon :)

      April 15, 2019 | Reply
  • Rosanna says:

    That is such wonderful news, Kat. I’m very excited for you and almost feel like I miss you living further away (from California). Best wishes for you on your recent move and I hope that longing is fulfilled :) I admire your passion and drive as well as Derek’s. Good to hear you are both doing great and still good friends. Cheers to you both on this new chapter in your story.

    April 16, 2019 | Reply
  • Jessica says:

    I just started following you and I am beyond pleased with your content and transparency, it is refreshing!

    April 16, 2019 | Reply
  • Sandy H. says:

    I’m loving your framed photograph of the crashing waves-could you share the dimensions (approx.) looking for a similar piece. I will be reaching out to the vendor-wish me luck.

    April 17, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Hi! I don’t know the dimensions but feel free to call Stansbury Collection in Santa Monica where I purchased it – they would know!

      April 17, 2019 | Reply
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  • Graciela Bredehoeft says:

    Congratulations on your move back and following your dreams. Same to Derek. Just know that when love is meant to be it will be, today, tomorrow or in a thousand years. Best wishes to both of you.

    @authorgracielagarciabredehoeft

    April 30, 2019 | Reply
  • Melissa says:

    Kat,
    This was such an amazing read. I found it relatable where I’m a city girl that loves the Drive and Energy of the city life. I lived in LA for 2 years in BH and made the move back to Canada to be in Toronto. After 10 years in Toronto and now going on 32, I Live in the country with my boyfriend where like you said everything happens for a reason and you never know where you’ll end up. Being out here is where we want to one day start a family with the land instead of the concrete jungle. But I’ll always have Love of the City Life.

    April 30, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much Melissa :)

      April 30, 2019 | Reply
  • Jacquelyn Sanders says:

    So happy for you Kat! I’m originally from CA and I lived in NYC for 8 years. CA is no comparison to the city. I love NY! And although I’m not living there anymore and living in AZ, I still feel the NY vibe. So I totally understand where you’re coming from. To be honest, I don’t think I’ll ever move that far west ever, AZ is the furthest I’ll go. Enjoy your life!!

    April 30, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you lady! :)

      April 30, 2019 | Reply
  • Tahirah says:

    Congrats Kat!

    May 1, 2019 | Reply
  • Kay | Style Unsettled says:

    Congrats on your move Kat!! Thank you so much for sharing your story <3 I know exactly how you feel, since I've moved so many times myself! I love being close to the beach and living a "coastal" lifestyle but I also love the energy and excitement of a big city.

    I visited NYC a couple of times and I instantly fell in love especially because of its SOUL and character. For the longest time I was torn apart between loving the climate, palm tress and tropical beaches that Florida offers, but desperately craving the aliveness of the city. Until recently when I traveled for the first time to Miami and was totally blown away. I think I might have found the best place for me personally, that combines both the things that are important to me. So now I'm putting the intent with the Universe to bring me closer to Miami and help me infuse more aliveness into my lifestyle.

    Much love <3
    Kay | Style Unsettled
    https://styleunsettled.com

    May 2, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Hi Kay!

      Thank you so much! Both city life and beach life are AMAZING no doubt. I LOVE Miami and I hope you get settled there as well :)

      XO

      May 2, 2019 | Reply
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  • Lucy says:

    Hi Kat! Welcome back to NYC and I’m so excited to see more NYC-specific posts! Do you plan on doing a post on how you found your NYC apartment? That kitchen is absolutely gorgeous!

    May 20, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thanks! I do :)

      May 20, 2019 | Reply
  • Rose says:

    Hello Kat,

    I absolutely adore your oversized wave print! Where can I get it, please?

    June 2, 2019 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Hi Rose – it’s a print by Jason Lawrence Olive!

      June 2, 2019 | Reply
  • Jim says:

    Finally, someone who gets it. I am a Brooklyn boy who moved to SoCal for work and never went back. Now, I’m in the suburbs of OC which I call the endless graveyard of houses. I am coming back. Culture here is going to Disneyland. I have had it.

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