Self Care

10 Things That Bring Me Joy

It’s almost been 1 year since the pandemic began. It’s hard to believe isn’t it? In 1 year all of our lives have drastically changed. Each and every one of us have had to adapt to this “new normal.” This “new normal” looks different for everyone…but I think we can all agree it’s been a BIG transition. The transition has been easier for some, and harder for others. Little things like grabbing a casual drink with a friend at a bar on a whim are no longer possible. While the pandemic has certainly taken a lot of freedom and spontaneity out of our lives, it hasn’t taken all of the joy. I personally needed to remind myself of this the other day after hitting a bit of a “pandemic wall.” I wanted to share something I did to remind myself of the small, day to day things that bring me joy. 10 Things That Bring Me Joy It’s funny how the simplest, sometimes even silly, things bring us the most joy. While it’s great to splurge on something new or reach a big career milestone, it’s the small things throughout the week that really sustain our happiness. This past week I wrote down 10 totally random things that were bringing me joy. To see them on paper, really made them that much more meaningful and special. I encourage you to write down 10 things that bring you joy. And without judgement. It could be the smallest, silliest thing that no one else will understand but you. You may be surprised what your list is comprised of. It’s a good way to remind yourself what actually makes you happy – and reprioritize finding the time to do things like that throughout the week. When everyday starts feeling like Groundhogs day, pull out your list, and check in with yourself. Make sure you’re making time to do these small, little things that bring you joy. Because after all, that’s the whole point of life – to enjoy it. Hermes teacup (similar, similar)
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Benefits of Taking CBD

Benefits of Taking CBDCBD has gained immense popularity in the past few years, and for good reason.  I first learned about CBD when I was living in LA.  Practically everyone I knew was touting the benefits!  So what is CBD?  CBD is a natural ingredient found within industrial hemp flowers. It is clinically proven to impact mental and physical well-being, when taken properly and consistently. It is a powerful health agent, but there is no discernible impairment (no high!)  Over the years, I tested and tried a few CBD products, but nothing ever wow’d me until I tried Equilibria products. Equilibria CBDQualityWhat impressed me the most about Equilibria is their ingredient transparency.  I love that they share a Certificate of Analysis for every single one of their products!  One of the things I learned about CBD early on, was that you should really pay attention to where it came from and it should always be organic.  Equilibria’s products are organic, and free of metals, solvents, and VOCs (volatile organic compounds).  Their products typically feature 3-4x the cannabinoids and terpenes found in other mainstream, over-the-counter CBD products. Favorite ProductsI’ve tried all of the Equilibria products and my favorites are the Daily Softgels, the Daily Treatment Oil, and the Relief Cream.  I love the Daily Softgels because they don’t upset my stomach (I have a very sensitive stomach to any sort of vitamins, supplements or pills) and they make me more relaxed.  I found that taking 1 pill after lunch everyday around the same time has really helped my anxiety levels in a very subtle way.  You won’t feel a sudden, crazy drastic change with these, but after about a week I could really feel a difference – I was just calmer. Probably my favorite benefit though, is that it really helps alleviate my period pain.  I get the worst cramps and am usually knocked out for the first 2 days.  The gels combined with the Relief Cream during my period has become such a nice self care ritual.  The Daily Treatment Oil is a gorgeous face oil that doesn’t break me out, and makes my skin feel bright and hydrated.  I like to use it alone or with my gua sha when I need a little boost or before a shoot. Dosage SpecialistEveryone’s body chemistry is different.  What works for me, may not work for you.  You may need more or less of the combination of CBD products that I take to feel the full effects.  This is why the dosage specialists are so amazing.  You get a free phone consultation with every purchase and unlimited email support.  Their site also has an extensive FAQ that really breaks down everything you need to know about CBD.  I highly recommend chatting with their specialist before you start taking the CBD, or a week or two after to really understand how your body is taking to it!  I’d love to know what your experience has been with CBD, and if you have any questions please feel free to leave them below and I will forward them to their team. Sale!Starting today 2/17 until 2/20 buy any Equilibria product and get the second one (of lesser value) for 50% off! This promo can also be combined with your 15% off code KATTANITA that always works!  I would personally start with the Brilliance box and then treat yourself to the Body box which has the relief cream, mineral soak, and face oil!
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Breaking Up With Friends

I’ve been secretly struggling with something during the pandemic…I’ve been going through a friend breakup. If you’ve ever lost a friendship over the years you know how painful it can be. It can happen for big or small reasons, to short or long term relationships. But when it does happen, it almost feels like a death. It can actually be harder than a romantic breakup because in our society no one ever talks about friend breakups and it feels weird to say you’re even sad about it! There aren’t really movies about friend breakups, a ton of articles on “how to get over your ex friend”, or mainstream coping tactics like bingeing ice cream or going out on the town with the girls to get over it. Breaking Up With Friends Have You Ever Had a Friendship Breakup? When my friend Helena shared the article, “Have You Ever Had a Friendship Breakup?” from A Cup of Jo, I felt a huge sense of relief. Finally someone was talking about what I had been privately grieving all year. The article is beautifully written and talks about both sides to a friend breakup…from being ghosted, to doing the actual ghosting, and just even having a falling out – it’s shitty either way. I’ve been on both ends, and it can be incredibly painful and confusing. At least with a romantic breakup, you pretty much know what you both did wrong. You have a big argument or you just realize you’re not compatible, you talk about it, and then you part ways. There’s more closure you know? But for some reason, with a friend breakup there never really is. It’s not like you say to your friend after years of friendship, “I think you’re selfish and resentful, but let’s try and work it out and still be friends…” No, lol. Obviously that’s an exaggerated example of something you’d actually say. But what I mean is, it’s very uncommon for women to confront other women about what’s bothering them. And when they do, in my experience, it has resulted in the end of the friendship. In a romantic relationship, there’s a different element where people are willing to change, take advice/feedback, morph…but in a friendship, that element isn’t really there. It’s more black and white if that makes sense? Personal Experience I felt like I needed to give a little more personal background on the friend break up scenario I’ve been going through. I know that when people have shared their own stories about this, it’s really helped me cope, so here goes… The one I’ve been grieving and trying to process this past year was one of my oldest friends. We had known each other for 20+ years. We had lost touch a bit over those years because we went to different schools and lived across the country from one another. But we always managed to check in periodically. We grew closer later in life when she got engaged because she wanted me to be a part of all of the wedding excitement and events. It was wonderful to spend so much time together during that year. But after that, we went back to our normal periodic check ins. As time went on, she became extremely unhappy at her job and always seemed down when I’d ask about it. I would try to share something positive or exciting about my own job. But she could never listen to it and would make an excuse to get off the phone or change the subject right away. Over time, her resentment toward me became unbearable and extremely hurtful. I tried to brush it off. But ultimately, we got to a place where we just had nothing in common anymore. And our calls or get togethers felt like obligations. We never laughed or had fun together…we were just stuck in the past, talking about people we knew 20 years ago. The last straw for me was when I confided in her about something really upsetting that happened. She was one of the only people I told because she had known me the longest/and knew the context of the situation. After I poured my heart out to her, I thought I’d hear from her about it, via a supportive call or a text, or just a “How are you holding up?” but nothing came and weeks went by with no contact. I was devastated and embarassed that I had opened up to her. After that, I finally saw the writing on the wall. We were holding on to the past, but nothing else was holding us together. I never felt good after talking or hanging out with her. And if I could never share good news about my job or lean on her during hard times, what was the point of this so-called friendship? Months later, I did confront her about my hurt feelings after she asked where I had been. Unfortunately she got extremely defensive and tried to deflect. I had zero energy or desire left in me to salvage something that wasn’t working in the first place, so I let it be. Today, I feel a huge sense of relief without her in my life. I no longer have to live in the past and I no longer have to hide my happiness or joy to make her feel better. The best part is, that all of the energy and time I spent on that relationship has been put into so many other people and areas of my life that have blossomed during this time. Although I feel relief and have strengthened relationships around me, just the loss of someone who has been in your life (whether they were super supportive or not) is hard to wrap your head around. It’s still a shock to the system when anything like this happens. And it takes time to fully move on from. Lack of Closure I think the overall lack of closure that comes at the end of a friendship is what’s so hard. If you’re the one being ghosted, you’re usually clueless as to what you did wrong, and become hurt, confused, embarassed and/or upset. If you’re doing the ghosting you can feel guilty and ashamed for leaving them in the dark, but may not know what to say, and no longer have a desire to continue the friendship – even if the person changes. Even if there’s no ghosting involved, but there’s confrontation or an argument, it can often feel like there was so much left unsaid with a friend breakup. A few of you were DM’ing me asking how to approach these tricky scenarios. And to be quite honest, I’m really not sure. Every case is SO different and complex. Which is why, in the past, I liked to talk about them with my therapist before making a hasty decision I may regret. What ultimately has helped me is… My Advice The best advice I can give you is this. Life is SO short and you need to focus on what makes YOU happy. If a friend no longer makes you happy, and repeatedly drains you, brings you down, puts you down, shows jealousy, resentment, or anything that makes you feel BAD, then it’s probably time to say goodbye. You don’t have to say goodbye forever though! Many friendships can grow, evolve and change. Be open to that and know that is perfectly normal. I’ve had friends who I’ve naturally drifted a part from for no reason other than we lived far away. And then we came back together years later like no time had passed. I’ve also had friends who I just couldn’t relate to anymore so we lost touch. But years later found ourselves in similar situations and reconnected. I’ve also had friends who had been continually toxic for years and years. And who I knew deep down would never change. I made a pact with myself that I’d never let them or their bad energy in my life again. Sometimes people come into your life for a reason, but they’re not meant to be there forever. Cherish the good times you had, and let anything negative fall away. Every single situation and friendship will be different. But whatever your circumstances are, remember to trust your gut instinct. If you don’t know how to tap into that instinct, ask yourself, “Does this friend make me feel good about myself when I’m with them or talking to them? Can I be my 100% genuine self with them?” The answer to those questions will be very telling. It’s OK Just know that it’s OK to outgrow a friend. It’s OK to put yourself first. It’s OK to pull away from someone that makes you feel bad about yourself. And it’s normal to feel guilty or ashamed around a friendship breakup because it’s HARD! It’s uncomfortable, sad, painful – regardless of which side you’re on. Do all the self care things to process and move on from it. Go to therapy if you think it will help you. Open up to your other girlfriends about it (they may be struggling and embarassed to say they are too!) And most importantly, give yourself time and space to heal. I’ll end with this quote (source unknown); “The people who are meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, no matter how far they wander.” If a friend is meant to be in your life they will, if not, let them go.
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My Morning Routine

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I struggled with my digestion for years. I was constantly bloated, doubled over in stomach pain, had unexplainable weight gain, and brain fog. It was terrible and I searched endlessly for solutions. The silver lining of it all, was that it sparked my interest and passion in wellness. I tried SO many different things to heal my digestion. It was beyond frustrating and extremely discouraging at times, but I am so glad I didn’t give up! What ended up working was eliminating histamines from my diet, and following this morning routine. Benefits from Green Juice I’m excited to finally share the simple steps that make up my morning routine. When Thomas decided to start doing it as well 3 months ago, I was curious to see if he would have the same amazing results I did. Within 3 days of back to back juicing first thing in the morning before eating, he noticed a huge difference in his energy levels. (He used to start his day with eggs and toast.) Within a week he literally said, “Wow I feel so much more clear headed and awake.” Not only that, but he noticed it curbed his appetite for junk food and midday snacks. It’s done that for me, and has completely regulated my hunger levels. He also noticed a huge improvement in his digestion, his skin became clearer and more glowy, and he had energy that lasted throughout the day (he used to be exhausted and asleep by 9PM!) He’s lost a ton of weight, and says he overall just feels so much better. It’s been incredible to see these improvements – and hilarious that he now can’t go a single day without his green juice!!! My Morning Routine Step 1: Hot Water with Lemon I wake up around 8AM and drink a glass full of hot water with 1/2 an organic lemon squeezed and dropped into the glass. If you can’t find organic, don’t fret! I thought this went without saying, but since someone asked haha…wash your lemon! I use this spray. Make sure to put the lemon with the peel into your glass because it’s full of amazing nutrients. Doing this first thing, alkalizes your body and wakes it up. It’s the most soothing ritual. I’ve received questions about the acidity from the lemon effecting the enamel on your teeth, and that hasn’t been a problem for me, but be sure to chat with a dentist if you’re concerned! Step 2: Green Juice PSA do not buy a store bought green juice! It’s not the same as a juice you will make fresh in your home and drink right away. It loses its nutrients even if it says it is “cold pressed.” I honestly cannot stress this enough – you will not even remotely see the same results unless you make it yourself. This is the juicer I have. It’s so easy to clean and has lasted for years. My juice recipe is; 1/2 fennel (use only the white bulb part), 5-6 stalks celery, 1/2 green apple, and 1 cucumber. I use this veggie spray to clean them beforehand. If they don’t have organic of something, I don’t sweat it. Life’s too short, and a juice is better than no juice for me. This makes about 16 oz of fresh juice, which I drink immediately. It loses 50% of its nutrients after 30 minutes, so it’s definitely best to drink right away to get the biggest impact. Like I said above, green juice healed my digestion, regulated my hunger signals, made my skin glow like it never had before, helped me lose weight, and got rid of my brain fog. I don’t go a day without it, and if I am on vacation I seek out the fresh juice spots. I typically drink this about 45 minutes to 1 hour after my lemon water, because I like to meditate after my lemon water. Wait at least 30 minutes to eat anything after you drink your juice. I wait a few hours until lunch, but Thomas waits 30-45 minutes and then has his eggs and toast. Step 3: Matcha latte (optional) TBH I rarely drink matcha anymore because I just don’t need the caffeine. My life is a lot slower paced now that I’m not running around NYC all day. I don’t need to be jacked up with energy to make it to back to back meetings, events, shoots etc. But, if I ever do need an energy boost or pick me up, I make a simple matcha latte using ceremonial grade matcha powder, hot water, and this whisk. Add 1/2 tsp of matcha powder to a bowl, along with 1/4 cup of almost boiling water. Whisk rapidly and once the powder is dissolved and frothy, top with more water. You can add a few tablespoons of full fat coconut milk or cream from Trader Joe’s (or find one that doesn’t have any guar gum in it and is pure because guar gum bloats you.) Coconut cream has a natural sweetness to it. If matcha is too bitter for you add some honey, stevia or a little white sugar. I love using this frother for the coconut milk or cream so it tastes like a latte. Most places make terrible matcha lattes, so if you don’t like them, you’ve probably had a very low quality powder. Starbucks matchas are fake and full of sugar…30g of sugar to be exact. The best matcha latte I’ve ever had is from Cha Cha Matcha where they use the barista coconut milk with a frother. I can never seem to make it as good as they do at home even with this though! I typically have my matcha around 2 or 3PM (if I feel that I need it), but Thomas likes to drink his at around 11AM after his eggs. Intermittent Fasting So there you have it, that’s my morning routine. I do not eat breakfast because I have never liked breakfast and feel way too full in the morning. So I love eating a huge lunch and dinner. I don’t “try” to fast. But because I don’t actually eat until around 12PM, I am technically intermittent fasting everyday. I say “try” because if I’m hungry I eat, if I’m not, I don’t. I listen to my body! Recap As always when I talk about my health, I like to mention that I am not a doctor and you should always consult with a medical professional regarding any dietary changes. I love sharing what has worked for me, and hope you have the same amazing results that Thomas and I have had from this simple routine!
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