With Love
From Kat

With Love
From Kat

Advice on Moving and Changes

Soho, NY

Advice on Moving and Changes

So many of us are going through major transitions and life changes right now. Maybe you’re moving apartments, selling your home, relocating to an entirely different city, looking for a new job, or just simply managing this “new normal” way of living. I wanted to share a bit of my past experiences for those of you trying to navigate this time.

No Regrets

In the past 10 years I’ve moved 7 times – 3 of which were cross country! Though tiring, I have never regretted a single move. That’s what your 20s are for – exploring new places, trying new things and figuring out what you like or don’t like. In the beginning, it has always felt a bit scary acclimating to a new neighborhood, city, and/or state, but it’s also been incredibly exhilarating! Overcoming the challenge of settling into a space is so rewarding and has pushed me to grow and develop in ways I never would have.

Benefits of Moving

With each move, I’ve gained invaluable knowledge and skills. I’ve met wonderful people and made lifelong connections. I’ve discovered amazing restaurants, hotels, and boutiques. And I’ve been able to see and experience so many unique places all over the country. Most importantly, I’ve been able to become the independent, capable woman I am today. All of my solo adventures and challenges, laid the foundation for the relationship I have with Thomas. I cannot begin to express how important it is to be able to accomplish certain things on your own before entering into a long term partnership. This advice not only applies to romantic relationships, but also friendships and business ventures. You really need to be able to stand on your own two feet before fully committing to another person otherwise the relationship will always be disproportionate.

What I’ve Learned From Each Move
From AZ to NYC:

Straight out of college, at 22, I moved from my hometown Phoenix, AZ to Queens, NY. I didn’t have a job yet – and barely had a penny to my name (except the cash I made from selling my car.) A friend (who is now one of my best friends and operates all things WLFK!) kindly let me rent a room for next to nothing in the house her mom grew up in. I pounded the pavement applying to a zillion jobs, and was lucky enough to reconnect with a childhood friend who put me in touch with her sorority sister who worked at a jewelry company. And I landed an interview and started working there the very next week – it was meant to be.

I took the bus to Herald Square Monday-Friday and lived off 99 cent Ray’s pizza and Hale + Hearty salads. I relished eating my lunch in Bryant Park on a hot summer day and doing happy hours after work with new friends. That first year in NYC was one of the best years of my life. I proved to myself that I could move across country, find a job, navigate the city, and make new friends.

From Queens to Upper East Side:

After a year and a half of living in Queens and commuting into the city, my long distance college boyfriend decided to move to NYC from AZ, and we found a cute walk up apartment on the Upper East Side. I felt like I hit the jackpot being able to rent a real NYC apartment with exposed brick, walking distance to Central Park. I LOVED exploring the UES and discovered tons of gorgeous parks, museums and shops during my 2 years there. The Carl Schurz park is a true hidden gem in the city if you’re ever in the area. And the Frick Collection will always be a favorite of mine!

From UES to West Village:

After I quit my job to blog full time, I started venturing downtown more regularly and quickly fell in love with the charm of the West Village. Brick townhouses with ivy growing up the sides, quaint cafes with outdoor bistro tables, and quiet tree lined streets had me longing to move there. I found the most darling 2 bedroom apartment in a building on Waverly Place and Bank that was built in the 1920s. I had the quintessential NYC fire escape and a view overlooking hundred year old townhouses. So I relished every second of living in that space and neighborhood… I still love it just as much today as I did back then.

I made friends with my super and all of my neighbors, got to know the local baristas and bartenders, became a regular at so many yummy spots, and really felt at home there. And I would run along the West Side Highway at sunset every night – it was my medicine.

From West Village to Paris:

After 2 years in the West Village and a devastating breakup with my longtime boyfriend, I needed a major change. The apartment we shared together constantly reminded me of him and us. Although I knew deep down he wasn’t “the one” it was still so painful. He had been my best friend for almost 8 years and to go through life without him for those first few months was gut wrenching. So one of my girlfriends had recently moved to London and invited me to come spend the summer with her and encouraged me to move to Europe.

I had always wanted to live in Europe and loved Paris, so I thought of it as the study abroad I never had. I rented an apartment in the St. Germain area of Paris and was able to travel all over Europe – to Ibiza, St. Tropez, London and the English countryside that summer. It was an absolute blast and exactly what I needed to mend my broken heart. The change of pace/scenery/culture was SO refreshing. So I decided I wanted to move there full time and began looking into visas, tax laws, and French classes.

Unfortunately, toward the end of the summer, something I’ve never shared is – I got robbed in broad daylight. Suddenly I found myself living in a foreign country with no ID, no credit/debit cards, no cash, and no friends or family nearby. It was a complete shock to my system, and helped me understand that it wasn’t a good idea for me to move to a foreign country when I didn’t have a safety net. I came back to my West Village apartment and realized how much I had missed my friends and life in NYC. The universe works in mysterious ways, and it was a sign that Paris was not meant to be!

From West Village to LA:

I spent another year in West Village after Paris and had a ton of fun dating and enjoying single life in the city. And I felt like I finally hit my stride and embraced being single. I was going out to dinner and drinks every night and taking full advantage of everything the city had to offer. The work opportunities that were coming my way were once in a lifetime, and it was so special being able to meet in person with brands and founders.

But then my digestion/stomach issues hit. Everyday I would wake up doubled over in stomach pain, bloated, and sick. I went from doctor to doctor trying to figure out what was wrong, but no one had the right solution. Frustrated and still single, I realized I really needed to focus on self care and my health. With my nonstop lifestyle in NYC, I felt like I couldn’t. I had always wanted to move to LA and I felt really drawn to the ocean. After road tripping through LA for a month, I knew Venice Beach was the town I belonged in. I found a great house 3 blocks from the beach and moved all of my belongings across country.

LA: Laid Back and Health Conscious

LA was just what I needed at that time in my life. It’s laid back, health conscious, and the weather was to die for! The sunshine, ocean, and overall lifestyle grounded and healed me. A friend I had met there, told me about her stomach problems and histamine intolerance. I had never heard of it before, but as soon as I read about it, I realized that could be what was causing all of my digestion issues. I eliminated high histamine food for a year (and still do to this day), and I haven’t had any stomach issues since. So I am forever grateful for meeting her and being introduced to that.

So many good things came from my time in LA; from getting my dog Charlie at Vanderpump Dogs, to reconnecting with one of my best friends from college, to exploring all of the different parts of LA, and falling in love with my next door neighbor! Getting a dog opened my heart up to love again, and helped me find and show love in a relationship. Derek taught me so much and although we ultimately wanted different things in life, I’m so happy I met him.

From LA to Soho:

After 2 years in LA, I was feeling re-energized and centered. I had visited friends in NYC in the fall, and was surprised to find myself missing it. The hustle/bustle and buzz was intoxicating and I wanted to be back amongst the excitement. Derek and I talked about moving to NYC together, but ultimately realized we weren’t compatible long term, so he took a great job opportunity in SF while I moved to NYC. The second I moved back to NYC I knew in my bones I was where I was supposed to be. It felt so good to be back! I threw a huge housewarming party and one of my friends posted a picture of us on her Instagram.

Funny enough, a guy who I had been on 1 date with 5 years prior (Thomas, who btw I liked back then, but the timing was all wrong because I moved to Paris the following week!), commented and said he remembered me and asked if I was still single. Our mutual friend reconnected us and we went out on our “second 1st date” a few days later! It was then that we both immediately knew that was it. We’ve been inseparable ever since and he moved in shortly after. Out of all of the neighborhoods I’ve lived in, Soho has been my favorite. It’s so full of life! The diversity, culture, restaurants, shops, hotels, art, people – it’s just constantly inspiring and interesting. Everyday I see or hear something new.

What’s Next

So that was pretty much a long way of saying; Don’t be afraid to move! Don’t be afraid of change! Get out of your comfort zone. Open yourself up to new people, places, opportunities. Challenge yourself and grow, learn, progress. You can always move back! You can always move out! And you don’t have to stay anywhere. The world is truly your oyster. So keep an open mind, and trust the process. Lean into uncertainty. You don’t have to have all of the answers, or have everything figured out before making a change. You can figure it out along the way! In fact, that’s what I have always done.

I’ve come to really understand what people mean when they say, “Life’s about the journey, not the destination.” Because it’s the journey that opens us up to these wonderful chance encounters, it’s the journey that introduces us to these friends, lovers, and places that will forever be a part of us. So, if you’re feeling like you’re in limbo or not sure what to do next, just know that you are not alone. Trust yourself, and listen to whatever your gut is telling you.

We Love NYC

For me personally, I’m doing a whole lot of thinking right now (serial over thinker right here LOL.) Thomas and I love NYC, our apartment and our neighborhood, but with everything going on in the world, and so many things changing around us, we too are re-evaluating where we want to be now – and long term. We aren’t making any decisions quite yet, but instead just talking, listening, and paying attention to what feels right for us. We are focusing on all of the things we have to be grateful for rather than dwelling on what is out of our control.

That said, it is a really great time to switch things up and try something new. Head to that city you always want to live in – even if it’s just for a year. Or relish and enjoy quality time with your family rather than rushing back to your apartment. I know I can’t wait to see my dad in Arizona once it’s safe to fly again! Wherever you are, I hope you are safe. I hope you are healthy. And I hope that you listen to your gut and let it guide you.

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  • Chelsea says:

    I really enjoyed reading this and the breakdown of all of your moves. Thank you for taking the time to write this and leave us with encouragement to make the most not just of this time but of our lives and have fun with these big decisions. Love to you, T and Charlie

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much Chelsea <3

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Orangemintpop says:

    You are a brave soul. I’m hate the idea of moving but it sounds fun living in different places.

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you! It isn’t easy but it has proven to be very worthwhile every time :)

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Holly says:

    Thank you for sharing Kat. I’m in the midst of a move and feeling unsure if it is the right thing to do. This gave me encouragement and loved hearing your experiences.

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Good luck with your move!!! <3

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Cathy says:

    Kat, I couldn’t agree more! My husband and I have moved many times since marrying, from UES to CA, back to the east coast in CT, then a huge move to Asia – Singapore where we traveled the whole region and now we’re in NJ. We talk a lot about where our next move will be. We both want to explore Europe more and finally we’ll retire somewhere that doesn’t have real winters (AZ is high on the list!). You learn so much from traveling & relocating and meeting so many people I never regret any move! Plus our children are open minded work travelers :-)

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Oh wow you have experienced so many amazing places!!! Singapore sounds incredible. Yes – it’s truly priceless to be able to explore that much and expose your children to so many unique cultures! AZ winters really are the best haha!

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • MP says:

    I love love love this post! I’m a single New Yorker thinking of getting a dog myself. I know you’ve posted about getting a dog before but would love to hear you expand on the emotional aspect of it a bit more and how it helped you open your heart. Been feeling a bit closed off lately and wondering if you went through something similar. xx

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Awww yes definitely get a dog! They are the best creatures. They become your best friend and buddy through everything. You will always have someone to eat with, sleep with, go on walks with, explore new places with. It’s the most special bond and really opens up your world because soon you start interacting with other dog parents on the street and connecting with people you wouldn’t have before!!!

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Brenna says:

    Thank you so much! I’m moving from Boston to NYC on 8/. With so much still up in the air I loved hearing your journey it makes me so excited and feel more courageous for the big move ♥️

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So exciting!! Good luck with your move! :)

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Sarah says:

    I really appreciated reading this, I just moved to a new city and there’s so much uncertainty with the world rn but your article gave me a good confidence boost. Thanks for showing your life’s journey and how amazing change can really be. Good luck on your next move!

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So glad it resonated! And good luck on this exciting next chapter :)

      June 22, 2020 | Reply
  • Rebecca says:

    I loved reading this! I think I’m always hesitant to move bc even if I like a new place, the problem for me is always not having a social circle and that prevents me from moving to a new place. As a blogger/influencer, do you find it easier or harder to make new friends since you don’t have an “office”? How long does it usually take for you to establish new friendships when you move?

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you! I think it really depends on the person. Some would say that it’s easier to meet friends when you work in an office because of the proximity to so many people, a team, coworkers, happy hours, etc. while others may say it’s easier to make friends working from home since you have the freedom to go to coffee shops/outdoor spaces, etc. in the middle of the day which would connect you with other fellow freelancers. I wrote a blog post on How To Make Friends As An Adult that you may find helpful! https://withlovefromkat.com/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult/ XOXO

      June 23, 2020 | Reply
  • Sara says:

    Not thinking of moving (37 yo with a hubby nd 2 young kids). But this post was fun to read! Good luck on whatever is coming next! Xo

    June 22, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Aw thank you ;)

      June 23, 2020 | Reply
  • Thérèse says:

    I am so happy for you, every move and life experience has brought you to where you are, a place of bliss! Sharing your journey gives others courage and conviction, brava!

    June 23, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      Thank you so much Therese :)

      June 23, 2020 | Reply
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  • Barb says:

    HI Kat! Loved your post-you reminded me to live an enjoy each moment and live the now! Got so caught up in my job tend to forget the “me-down” time-so important for health. With all your moves, you usually post pictures of your places. When are you posting your current place? I love looking at your décor!

    June 26, 2020 | Reply
    • kat@withlovefromkat.com replied:

      So glad you enjoyed it <3 Yes! I'll be posting pictures of my NYC apartment soon after they go live on one of my favorite home decor websites - stay tuned! XO

      June 28, 2020 | Reply
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  • Meg says:

    Thank you for sharing! Do you have any suggestions for good moving companies and tips on managing the logistics of relocating cross-country?

    July 8, 2020 | Reply
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      Yes I loved Rainbow Movers in LA – I believe John is the owner. They moved me across country and also do local moves. And then I use Dumbo Movers in NYC!

      July 8, 2020 | Reply
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  • Becka says:

    I loved reading this! We are moving soon and while I have a feeling it’s going to work out just fine it’s still nerve-racking. I’m happy with our decision and can’t wait for the move!

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